I am in the midst of trying to heal from the abandonment of my partner of 6 years. The relationship has been emotionally over for 6-7 months, but the physical breakup happened about 2 1/2 months ago. He immediately moved his new sweetie in, in fact, I didn't even have everything moved out before he moved her in!
About a month ago(maybe a little more), I started dating someone new, and things have been going along great. He had also been through a relationship in which he was lied to and cheated on, although he has had more time to recover from it than I have.
As I said, things have been going along great and we seem to have a lot in common. We have gotten to the point of seeing each other every day, and spending every night together as well. Now here is what I am wrestling with. This past weekend, his parents came for a visit. They came in on Thursday night, and stayed through this morning. The first thing that hurt my feelings is I have been asking him to take a day off from work and spend it with me for a couple weeks now. Just one good blow off day with no comitments and time to just lazy around and enjoy each other. He has lots of vacation time, and no plans to use any of it except a couple days for hunting season. His response when I ask is "I wish I could." But he did take Friday off to spend with his parents. Also, the whole weekend, I felt basically ignored. Not one phone call... I would see him online, but he did not IM me, and he told me not to IM him first in case it was his dad online instead of him. It was killing me to know he was on, but did not want to bother to chat with me, or at least say hello. The only time he would message me or email me was after his parents went to bed. I feel like he is ashamed to let them know I exist. So now I am worried that I am falling for another abandoner. Half of me says I'm over-reacting for fear of being abandoned again, the other half wonders if I will always be put on the back burner when he has more pressing things to do. I am not saying he should not have spent as much quality time as he could with his parents, I'm just saying I feel like he could have had a little more contact with me, and maybe even planned an outing that I could have gone on too? Maybe the relationship is too new and I am expecting too much. Anybody have any thoughts on this? I know people get to be "abandonholics" and I just want some input as to whether this is the behavior of a potential abandoner, or if I am just overly sensitive right now. I want to make sure my eyes are wide open in my relationships from here on in. Thanks in advance for any input!