Re: Ex's sex life
Oh yes, your post definately hits home.
My ex was (is?) my best friend, and the one I open up to the most. BUT you can't get over them with that kind of a reliance. You need to find someone else out there, whether it be a friend, or even a professional, that you can talk to about it all... and about him too.
And the way you are obsessing about whether he's had sex with someone else yet? Oh yes. Do I ever know what you mean! It is HUMAN NATURE to be all obsessed with it and want to know, and not want to know all at the same time. It becomes a very desperate kind of need and can end up running your mind if you let it. But think of it this way - if you DID find out, and he HAD, then you'd want to know the next thing. And the next. Who was it? Where? How did it happen? Was she pretty? Better than me? How does he feel about her now? Will he be seeing her again? And it goes on...and on... and on and you can never be free of it.
And if he says he didn't...what then? I'll tell you what - you'll be sitting there biting your nails, wondering every Sunday whether he had a big one the night before and has slept with someone now, or the next week, or the next...
Moral of the story? The obsessive need to know feeds on itself and only gets bigger if you start it in the first place. Resign yourself to the fact that you won't ever really know and that you REALLY don't need to! Down the track, in a years time or more, you'll probably have adjusted to the idea that he has, and you will have, and it all really won't matter anymore. I know its hard, but first and foremost you have to focus on how you're feeling and what you're doing... not him.
I hope I helped. I know its hard. Boy, do I know!