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Old 10-22-2006, 11:26 PM   #1
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Is it possible to...

Okay, a friend asked me something the other day that I thought was quite an interesting first it seems fairly straight forward but the more one thinks about really isnt. I thought I'd post it here just because I was interested in what the general consensus is.

Is it possible to love someone you don't even really know?

I dont mean just some stranger on the subway who you see for three seconds. When I say you dont know's more or dont know them very well. Like, say a co worker you've had a few conversations with, or a friend of a friend ect. someone you know about...and have spoken to on a regular basis even but you;'re not good friends with them and you dont know every detail of their lives.

Personally, I dont really know what I think just's really not that cut and dry a question to me.

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Old 10-23-2006, 02:12 AM   #2
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Re: Is it possible to...

Its possible to lust over someone you don't really know personally, but lust is all about the unknown, whereas love is about the known.

Knowing someone, all the little things that noone else knows, doing anything for them seeing past there faults is love.

Lust is longing for someone or something, wanting to get to know them, and thinking you love them.

Old 10-23-2006, 09:07 AM   #3
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Re: Is it possible to...


I don't find this to be a very practical question. It is indeed quite akin to philosophy or rather to speculation.

First of all, you'd have to define what love is.

Does anyone know what love is exactly? Or has love a different definition for each different person?

Anyway, I will try to answer the question in terms of a stable relationship of a couple, which seems to be the most frequent and weighty manifestation of love.

Then I'd say: No, it is impossible to love someone whom you don't know. In order to build a stable relationship with someone, you have got to know them pretty well.

But on the other hand you shouldn't try to know them perfectly well, to know everything about them. Because in this case, the other person will lose some of his or her fascination. You are going to be bored by your total knowledge of them.

Moreover, when you think you know someone completely, you may consider yourself to be their owner, and of course this will corrode your relationship and render you unwarrantedly prepotent.

Fortunately, it is usually impossible to know everything about someone else. That is what gives love its charm.

Hope this helps you.


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