These are the kind of posts my husband receives on his ****. We did meet on line and I know most of the women he dated me met on line. Should I be concerned or am I making too much of this? This Vixo chick is so sexy and gorgeous I really wonder if its her, but she posts a lot of hugs, kisses, smooches and xoxoxo on his **** even though she knows he is married. I know I'm no saint, but he knows I can read his **** and I wonder if he wants me to be jealous.
I think it is inappropriate for him to have that on his b l o g. Is that what your talking about? is is a b l o g?
He can easily block this woman, and he should because comments like that are not on for a married person. You should talk to him about it, and if he says anything like you shouldnt be snooping etc, tell him its a public profile.
I would ask him to block this woman, out of respect for you.
Are you sure that those posts aren't just from some spam-bot advertising machine, and not a real person? I think that sometimes messages can be generated and sent to people, especially after visiting porn sites and such. However, that's just a guess. I'd ask him to block her. If he doesn't, he better have a good reason.
It is from his b l o g and it is someone he has conversations with. I saw messages to her signed "hug" or xoxoxox and calling her "sweety" and "snowbunny." He claims she is in Canada and they are just friends. He has no intentions of deleting her or asking her to stop.
Your husband is in charge of himself---he can choose to stop this mess, or to keep allowing it. I find it unhealthy for your relationship if he has chosen to keep allowing this mess when you have informed it is suspicious.
Now you have the choice---you have the power. You can choose to keep putting up with HIS mess, or you can choose to stop allowing it.
I strongly encourage you to STOP allowing it by moving on from this man. I wouldn't even bother discussing it with him any further. I'd resort to ACTION rather than talk that goes in one ear and out the other to get the point across that HEY THIS ISN'T RIGHT, BABY!
That is disrespectful to you. You are worth so much more than what he is giving you. Don't settle. Your life is too precious, too short, to put up with his mess.
The power is yours. How will you use it?
ASSERT! Get what you deserve, WhyIsThisMyLife! He'll be sorry he screwed over such a strong, assertive woman!
Last edited by HelpHelpHelp; 10-25-2006 at 10:34 PM.
Since when do friends of the opposite sex call each other "snowbunny" "sweetie" "xoxo" and say GOOD MORNING and it be innocent of sexual undertones???? SINCE WHEN???
Okay, i understand this just MIGHT be the case with two people who grew up together or are family friends or some such history together---but, uh, these are CYBER relationships. I'm not an idiot, and neither are you. He's sustaining these relationships for flirting, and who knows what else.
He thinks he's fooling you, WhyIsThisMyLife. Your intuitions are saving your life. Go with 'em. Let him fool himself, don't you be pulled down with him!
I can't wait to hear how sorry he is when you SHOW him that you aren't putting up with this mess.
HelpHelpHelp is absolutely completely 100% right. That is inapropriate in a committed relationship and you should stand up to it. It will only get worse. Don't let it if you are in a position to be confrontational. I know not everyone is in a position they can make demands whether financially or otherwise limited but you need to know this is not healthy for you relationship.
I think its unappropiate ,and he should quit if you ask him to,but I do believe it when he says they are just friends.Friends that give each other extra special attention to keep each others spirits up.They know they will never get together so they feel comfortable with the sweet talk.He should quit though,but don't worry about it being anything more than giving each other an ego boost.
Friends are great. Everyone should have them. When a person makes new opposite sex friends after being in a commited relationship it's a cause for concern. Don't get snowblind to "just friends" crap because friends become more as time goes by and espcially in opposite sex relationships.
What do you think about making a user to post on his bl og? Don't go overboard but you can find any answer you want about what he is willing to do if you become one his b l o g chicks. One thing I'll advise. Check your phone bill and make sure he isn't calling any of them. If he is you better take a closer look at what's going on. Don't be caught off guard because you were too trusting and ignored your reservations. You are here afterall.
I am fine with people having friends of the opposite sex.
But it is going beyond the definition of friend when you call first thing in the morning to whisper sweet nothings over the telephone, especially when he could be spending that time loving on you, or whispering sweet nothings to the person he is in a romantic relationship with.
You can at least see it like that---the time he is devoting to this flirting is time that he could be devoting to you---THE REAL THING!