Why are some women attracted to married men?
Just a short synopsis of my life. I've recently remarried after being divorced for approximately 18 years. During my unmarried life, I've dated a few times, and unknowingly to one married man. He'd lied to me in the beginning and as soon as I found out he was married, I dropped him. When I find out a man I'm interested in is married or has a significant other (SO), I become his friend and that's as far as our relationship would go.
Now that I'm married, my husband recently got promoted in his company to a Corporate VP and tonight, a lot of his colleagues, close friends, family members and I celebrated his promotion. One particular female co-worker of his was heavily flirting with my husband. I was just an ear-shot away from them. My husband was kindly and graciously turning her down every time she'd made suggestions of the two of them having lunch or dinner. With other women, he knows it's innocent, but my husband knows this woman wants more than just food for lunch. She knows he'd recently married and his wedding band on his left ring finger was loudly saying, "he's married".
On our way home tonight, he'd told me what has transpired and I admitted to him that I heard the majority of their conversation. He laughed and said he felt flattered that he's getting attention from women. He also voiced his observation that ever since we'd become engaged and now married, he said that he gets more attention from women now than he'd ever been before. Even women strangers. I am not jealous nor upset nor did I try to intervene with his female co-worker and him because I trust that my husband will do the right thing, or I wouldn't have married him.
What is this phenomena? To me, married men are a waste of my time and energy to chase... they're taken! I'll be friends with them, but that's it.
What is the attraction? I don't see men having the same attraction to married women... or do they and it's just not as common?
I'm just curious of this whole phenomena on why a lot of women are attracted to men who are taken.
Last edited by Fabat40; 10-25-2006 at 12:53 AM.