Re: In love and really upset someone help:(
I too have been in a situation that is somewhat similar. My ex was a virgin (due to his religion, while I was not and was also not religious). He asked me how many people I had slept with, and when I told him, he started crying, hung up the phone, and wouldnt talk to me until I practically forced him to talk to me. The difference was that I told him that he was being unreasonable and that my past made me who I was and that was that. However, he did pretty much make me say that I 'regretted it', basically by making me feel like a dirty wh***, telling me that 'all he wanted to hear was that I regretted it and was sorry', b/c he wanted to know 'the type of person I really was, with or without him'.
So seriously, how do you think this made me feel!!? It STILL affects me sometimes and we've been broken up for a year.
The thing is, what I know now is that this behavior is manipulative and controlling. By throwing a fit and making you feel bad, dirty, wrong, etc., they are basically taking THEIR insecurities over the situation and pouting until you admit that YOU are the wrong one and beg for them to forgive you.
THIS IS MANIPULATIVE, whether they are purposely doing it or not. So you are going to cry, beg for him not to break up with you, when you didnt do anything wrong?? Your past is your past. Your past does not make you YOU.
What i also know now is that you do not ask and you DO NOT tell. You both were a little bit in the wrong here (or, created a recipe for disaster together). He should not have asked you something like that, b/c OF COURSE he wasnt going to like the answer. And just b/c you dont want to lie to him does not mean you have to tell him things that he isnt going to like to hear.
For now, I would really think about this: do you want to do what I did, and cry and apologize and beg for him to not break up with you so that HE has all the control and you are just left feeling bad about yourself?
He is being a baby and this is unfair to you. He asked; he should be able to deal with the consequences of your answer. If he is going to break up with you over this, then he does not love you. And im sorry to say that. Please think about what YOU want in a guy and what you will and wont put up with. I wish I would have done that more instead of just begging someone to love me when they were out of line.
I hope this helps...