Is he really normal or really a FREAK? - Relationship Health Message Board

happylady · 01-19-2007, 06:17 PM

I had been going out with a guy for 3 months approx, at the start of course things were great, we seemed to have a lot of things in common....I tend to be quite down to earth and placid and although I had a nagging feeling about this guy over some of his traits I decided to let them go as I was unsure if I was being too picky or not.....as time went on I felt like he was crowding me, there was some topics that when up for discussion they brought us into major arguments and eventually we broke up...however, me being the type of person I am I decided that we should try again and he agreed, for a while it was great as he was not putting pressure on me regarding those topics, but I began to feel crowded again and decided to analyse our relationship, I noted that he would contact me on average 3 times a day and ask what I was doing or what I had done and if I said just "bits and pieces" he wanted me to go into them and if I did not then he would get suspicious....(a bit of background on me I don't cheat and I am very honest with the person I am with if another guy has been chatting to me or asked me out or whatever, iv been in a cheating situation before so I know what honesty and trust are all about....) so anyway when I asked this guy to stop contacting me so frequently we ended up in another row...he was saying he could not believe that I would be annoyed at the fact that he was just being nice and getting in touch to see how I was doing! - what do you think, was he being too clingy??

Also this guy had a problem with me when we spoke on the phone, if he asked me something and I didn't answer right away he would get annoyed and say im taking too long to answer, Im the type of person who formulates there answers before they speak so not to have to apologise afterwards if I say something incorrectly....that is just the way I am I can't change it and noone has ever given out before about it........

As you can imagine there were obviously a number of issues with this guy, but id be here all nite going through them, jus want to know what yee think, was he a freak???? Cheers....

galinaqt · 01-19-2007, 06:47 PM

It seems he has jealosy problem, it is very unpleasant I had guy like that. Contacting you 3 times a day is too much, once at most and critisize you for your not immediate answers doesn't sound good either.
I would of get rid of him.

bronx · 01-19-2007, 07:41 PM

yea he sounds like a bad seed if u think hes overcrowding u then u dont need him if ur ever in a relationship and u have that bad feeling in ur gut try 2 get out quick before it to late cheers hope every thing goes well

happylady · 01-21-2007, 03:27 PM

Hi, to those of you who replied, thanx, iv had a think about the situation and talked to a few people and your right, everyone says the same thing to me, I wish I could show him these comments so that he would know its not me with the problem!!!, however, the less contact with this Freak the better! thanks again guys!!!

Laylah · 01-21-2007, 04:49 PM

I actually dont agree that contacting someone three times a day is excessive. My boyfriend and I contact eachother at least that much. It's all a matter of what's acceptable to the individual I suppose.

I dont like the sound of him telling you to speed up your responses though, that sounds like he gets irritated quickly, which dosent bode well.