I went out with an online dating site guy the other night, and we had a pretty nice phone confab the night before, but the date just didn't produce any sparks, and the more I reflect on in, the more I feel pretty strongly that it's just going to be a "just friends" thing. I'm pretty sure he's going to ask for another date, though. If he does, I need a polite, respectful but firm way of saying no thanks. What are some things that you guys use, some things you say to let someone down easy that gets understanding results? thx
"I had a fun time..the last time we were out.......but, My I think my planner have me schedule for the next 5-6 months, or so.....sorry, maybe next time"
I always try to take the explanation that includes the most honesty but the least painful words. Which can get kind of tricky...but Ive found that honesty is usually the best policy b/c it doesnt leave the guy wondering and it doesn't leave things in a 'gray area' so to speak. Letting someone down 'easy' also isnt always best for them, because they don't get the picture, you know?
So I guess in this situation Id just say something along the lines of "I had a really great time and I enjoyed talking with you, but I honestly feel that things would be best staying on a friendship level".
Because thats the truth, right? And theres no way around it..he can't think "well maybe shes just busy" or something like that. And you've only been out with him once, so you can't hurt him too much....
1. You started talking to a guy that you met before him and that you want to give this guy another chance.
Or.....
2. You went back with your old boyfriend.
Or....
3. Honesty: I don't think it's going to work out between us. I wish you the best of luck.
I like the honesty one best of all because this way you're not playing any games and just being honest. He doesn't know you that well to get upset, right?
For something that short lived, I would just ignore his e-mails or phone calls. If you really want to respond but don't feel like being blunt, you could find anything and use it as an excuse--"You live too far away", Our religious/political differences matter too much," etc.
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