In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
Hi everyone,
I have been married to my husband for 4 years, about a year ago I had an affair, long story, but thankfully my husband forgave me and I am back home with him and as happy as I could be. We are trying to have a baby and life could not be better. My problem is, I keep thinking of this other man, the one that I had an affair with. He is on my mind all the time, I did have very strong feelings for him but not anymore so I do not know why I keep thinking about him. What can I do to forget about this man and move on with my life. I am so happy with my husband, I just want to get this other guy off my mind. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
Maybe you haven't fully understood the underlying reason you had the affair to begin with? Most women don't cheat purely out of lust, usually there is an ulterior motive behind the action.
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
What was the reason you had the affair? Was something missing in your relationship with your husband? Was it purely physical? I'm thinking whatever the reason is that you strayed hasn't been completely resolved. Did the two of you seek counseling together?
I know your husband forgave you what happened. I'm thinking maybe you need to talk to someone about the thoughts you are having. Try to get to the route of it so it doesn't happen again. Maybe you are under a lot of stress trying to conceive so it's making your mind wander to when sex was for pleasure, ie., this other guy? I don't know. Maybe you should seek some counseling on your own to try to work through all the feelings you are having.
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
The reason for the affair was due to the fact that my husband and I could not have a child. When we found that out he pushed me away and our marriage starting falling apart. I met this other man who I was able to talk to about all my problems and he conforted me and I started to fall in love with him, he was giving me what my husband was not, love, affection, conpanionship. Once I left my husband I knew I wanted him back and fought like hell to get him and finally did. We have both gotten counsiling and things seem to be fine. I guess part of me still misses this other man. My husband now gives me everything he wasn't before and I am happy but I just cannot get hiom off my mind. I am always wondering what if? I do not want to wonder what if anymore. I just this would of never have happened
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
I remember you now. I'm glad that you and your husband seem to be doing a lot better. Are you still going to counseling?
Maybe you are affraid of your husband shutting you out again so you are continuing to have thougths of the other guy as a way of protecting yourself? How long ago did you end it with him? I'm sure all the stress and hormones related to your ttc is making your mind wander to all different places. I think that you should continue to go to counseling (if you are not) so you are able to try to resolve the affair and put it to rest.
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
My affair ended back in August, I cut off all contacts with him. I even quit my job( we met at work) My husband is getting cousling but I am not. I do not want my husband to know that I still think of this other man. My thoughts are not bad ones, just memories. They are not thoughts of regret for going back to my husband. I just try to push them out of my head but it is hard.
Re: In love with my husband but cannot stop thinking about other man
I was in sorta the same situation about six years ago. I never cheated on my stbxh. But I thought of someone else. So we separated. Then my stbxh wanted to work things out. So we tried for the last six years. But there was something missing. I didn't want a divorce, but now I have found it was the best thing that could have happened. I didn't end up with the one that I thought of often. But I did find someone that I love more then anything. There was something missing with me and my stbx. Even though you love your husband, there must be something missing for you to even think of another man in any way.
