Originally Posted by Larrylou'smom
I'm rather shy, avoid confrontations, am introverted, etc. and I dated a like minded fellow for a couple of years, and neither of us took the lead either, and as a result, in the long run, it was disaster. He ended up marrying a Sharon Osbourne type. I just think if the bills are going to get paid, if the business is going to be run, if the neighbors are going to be put in their place when they step over their bounds, if someone bullies your kid, someone has to go talk to the parents of the bully and get it straightened out. If both people are shy and afraid of conflict and avoid confrontation and don't handle money well, etc., then who's it going to be?
Well I am sorry that your relationship didn't work out between you and your ex partner, but it doesn't always have to work out that way.
Because a couple are shy, it doesn't mean they have no backbone. People can be shy in different ways, for example what I meant about my partner being shy, was when I met him, and how I found it to be attractive etc, was the fact that he wasn't pushey, he was slow at confessing his feelings for me, and was nervous around me, cause he liked me. That doesn't mean that he is shy regarding life in general, just shy around the opposite sex, which its what we are talking about here.
It is about getting the balance right, we are a sucessful couple, and work together well as a team.
Just because both parties of a couple are 'shy' that doesn't always mean scared of conflict or confrontation, that is just taking shying to an extream. In our case, we are shy around the opposite sex, and in some social situations etc.
I think the point to the original poster has to be, if this guy is shy to the extream such as can't look out for himself etc then maybe it wouldn't work - but if he is shy around you and not too forward, then maybe give him a chance.
Shyness in my book is a nice quality to own I think