Thinking To Recontact Online Guy...Good/Bad Idea? - Relationship Health Message Board

CandP · 10-08-2007, 09:59 PM

Still on this stupid online site. No one seems interesting and I want to call it quits.

But in my "search" I came up with the guy I had a two-month chat with. We exchanged # and chatted about things. Seems like we had enough in common. Long story short - when it came time to meet, I backed out like a chicken - I felt to nervous and scared. Anyway he replied by saying "whenever I'm ready." After that, I tried IMing, a couple times, emailing. Nothing. He never contacted me again. This was back in July.

Anyway, I just felt like saying a hello, since I saw that he's still on the site. I cannot send a message (not a member), just a stupid flirt like can we chat, etc.

I think he probably thought I was a jerk for backing out on the meet, but after the non-meet arrangement, he said he'd call or text and did neither. We are both 31.

What should I do?

Birdbreath · 10-09-2007, 12:48 AM

Hey,

I would try it again, I mean it seems harmless anyway. And then if you do get to talking, tell him you were just too chicken. He might be interested to catch up on things again. If not, so be it. But what have you got to lose? Let us know how it goes.

rosequartz · 10-09-2007, 06:49 AM

are you ready to meet him this time?

if not, don't waste your's or his time.....

2 months is long enough to chat to decide if you want to get to know each other better.

most people on on-line dating sites aren't just looking for on-line/chat or a pen pal.....hopefully the goal is to meet

CandP · 10-09-2007, 03:22 PM

I think I'm finally ready, yes.
However, I feel like after his "whenever you're ready reply" there wasn't really any other contact from him. I tried IMing, text, emails thereafter - nothing.

There worst that can happen, I guess , is that he "blocks me" lol...I have thus deleted him from my IM, only b/c he did not respond to my message. I think he might have felt that I led him on? Though I emailed him that I never mean t to lead him on in any way.

He seemed very sincere telling me things like a girlfriend/wife should be your best friend, showing me that he has some kinds of morals etc. I know that for about 2 months he was off the site (not logged), now he logs on every couple days, which tells me he's still looking.

I guess if he doesnt respond, I'll know for sure. The bad thing is, is that I can only send him a "can we chat" stupid flirt without the ability to go into detail.
I believe I still remember his email address, but do I email him instead? And should it be detailed about why I chickened out, or a simple hello and see what he says?

rosequartz · 10-09-2007, 03:39 PM

if you have his e-mail address, e-mail him....don't send a flirt thru the site and you can't even make contact.....

also he may have met someone and that's why he didn't respond.....