My husband never says that he thinks I am sexy. He shows me affection by hugging and stuff like that but it ends there. In 16 yrs he has said I love you only 3 times. I should be use to this but it really does bother me. Is any one else going through this?
My husband does not make me feel sexy directly. I told him that I get more compliments from strangers on the street than from him. But when he does compliment me directly it sounds phony but I just say thanks. I think the indirect compliments happen when he introduces me to another guy and it is obvious that the guy thinks I am attractive or whatever and my husband has the "yea she looks good and she's mine look." I said that to say don't look for the obvious, he may be complimenting you and you not recognize it.
Have you ever read The Five Love Languages? I used to deal with things like this, but that book made me see that sometimes my husband is telling me things, just not in the language I'm listening for. And it gave me the words to explain to him how I need him to tell me things when I'm tired of translating.