Re: Very exhausted and just need some opinions.
Honestly, I think this is inexcusible. Sorry, but they are his kids too, and he lives there too, he should be doing what you do. I think it's a cop out to say that " mean don't have to be responsible" or "most of it falls on the woman"..NOT TRUE. I know many many men who do their share and more. It's all about attitude. Your " job" during the day is taking care of the kids, his job during the day is to go to work, after hours and weekends, you are a family and BOTH should be contributing equally. I see it very clearly, your husband isn't pulling his weight because he doesn't want to. He is capable, knows you are doing most of it, but doesn't care. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's not rocket science. Let me put it this way, I'm married, my husband isn't even my children's biological father he is there step father, but he does every thing I do and more. Not only that, but he NEVER ever gets annoyed or angry if I want time out, I go out with friends dancing and to movies, I go on trips with freinds for a few days, and he takes over at home. During the regular week we take turns with everything, and weekends it's the same. I think only you can change things, if you want your own friends and own interests, get them. Don't ask your husbands permission, just tell him that you are going to start taking care of your own needs to. Tell him that you consider marriage a partnership, and you aren't there to be a servant. Just because you stay at home, doesn't mean he is off the hook for chores or parenting duties. I think it's fine that he has a sporting interest, but you should get interests to. My point is, you dno't need to put up with this nonsense, and it really is nonsense, men are just as capable as we are of parenting kids and doing chores, getting up with kids at night, doing baths, cooking, all of it, some of them just get lazy and take advantage ot their wives by acting like children. Sorry to be so blunt, but honestly I cannot understand why men think this is acceptable, and I wouldn't put up with it for one second. Either a marriage is a partnership or it's not, and if not, what is the point? Another thing, if he really loves you and cares about you and respects you, he will care that you are stressed and unhappy, and will do what it takes to make it a happier household and make his wife, the person he is supposed to love, a little bit more relaxed and un-stressed.
Last edited by jennie250; 01-11-2008 at 02:11 PM.