dating a younger man.... can it lead anywhere - Relationship Health Message Board

kathyl96 · 03-16-2008, 09:31 PM

I am 37 and have been dating a coworker for 5 months. He is 9 yrs younger than me. I am divorced with 2 children and I know he eventually wants to be a dad (we just don't talk about a possibility of a future together). Can this really work since I am so much older than he is? I don't want to waste my time but we have a lot of fun together and I don't know if I'm ready to end things. I worry because by the time he might be ready to settle down I don't think I would be almost too old to have more children. Needless to say, the work situation is a little sticky and it is a complete secret from our other coworkers.

Larrylou'smom · 03-17-2008, 05:33 AM

Well, Demi Moore is what, a good 14, 15 years older than Ashton Kutcher and it worked for them apparently. You never know. But yes, some things to consider.

Do you want more children? Would he be satisfied with having your kids as his step kids and no kids of his own ever? I think it's probably a little too soon to be talking about these things, but something to mull over for starters. But if you're really enjoying the relationship, why not stick with it a little while longer and see where it goes.

rosequartz · 03-17-2008, 09:09 AM

if you don't mind living in the present, he's your plaything......your boy-toy
as far as the future goes, you've answered your own question......

Mileena42 · 03-17-2008, 11:42 AM

Now, now Rose! I always enjoy reading your replies!!

My sister was 31, when she married her 3rd husband who was around 18 or 19. (Not sure of his exact age as I guess they didn't want it talked about). BUT they have married for 15 years! I think it might LAST!

Mileena

jill60 · 03-19-2008, 11:52 PM

M Mother is 12 yrs older than my Step-father, they have been married 25 years!

Jill

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Originally Posted by kathyl96

I am 37 and have been dating a coworker for 5 months. He is 9 yrs younger than me. I am divorced with 2 children and I know he eventually wants to be a dad (we just don't talk about a possibility of a future together). Can this really work since I am so much older than he is? I don't want to waste my time but we have a lot of fun together and I don't know if I'm ready to end things. I worry because by the time he might be ready to settle down I don't think I would be almost too old to have more children. Needless to say, the work situation is a little sticky and it is a complete secret from our other coworkers.