My brother and his wife are interfering in my wedding planning and I'm ******!
My brother got married 5 years ago. I was in graduate school 3 hours away at the time. I came home almost every weekend in the 2 months before the wedding to help then. I printed labels, I stuffed envelopes, I did ALOT. Everyone else at school was making friends (this was September and October) and I was home stuffing envelopes. I understood that they needed my help and I gave it to them.
Fast forward to the present. My brother and his wife have 2 kids, a 3-yr old and a 1 yr-old. I am getting married in 4 months and there is a lot to do. My fiance and I live about an hour from my parent's house and the wedding venue. The weekends are all we have because we can't drive 2 hours on the weekdays. My brother and his wife are being very selfish. They don't get it! They make all these plans with their friends on the weekends and leave their 2 kids at my mom's for babysitting. We can't do ANYTHING with 2 kids running around. Of course my mom can't say no to her grandkids and so the wedding planning is lagging behind. I doubt my brother and his wife will lift a finger for my wedding, but to drop their kids off at Grandma's at a very stressful time is very selfish.
Any advice? I have told my mom that this cannot continue but how can she choose between her grandkids and my wedding? I wouldn't want her to. I don't want to get into it with my brother since I know his reaction will be to stop going over to my mom's with the kids - and this will crush my mom. I want him to stop going over there EVERY weekend. Obviously he shouldn't stop altogether.
What should I do about this? We really need my mom's input on this wedding since she knows all the vendors and did an amazing job on my brother's wedding.
Last edited by pa43; 05-16-2008 at 08:49 AM.