Here is the background: I met a man when I was 16, we dated for a while but split when I was 20. Things have remained amicable and he is now one of my best friends... I have now known him for 10 years. I'm telling you this because I fear our relationship/friendship is very one sided because I have always been fonder of him because he is my first, you know? A year ago his dad got sick and he got a bit sappy and he said im a good friend and he loved me (not in a romantic way, that is over)...we have been through a lot together, been through some hard times with my family etc.
Anyway every now and again he acts like a f&ckwit and has an attitude like "im too busy to deal with you" which is irritating.
A while ago he bought me a reeeeally nice gift for my 25th and he wanted to hear constantly about how GREAT it was - you know what men are like
I of course did so, and took him out for a meal to say thank you, and he wanted to hear again and again and again how BRILLIANT and kind he was.
So, I know there was this rare LP that he has wanted ever since I have known him (he collects LPs), he has gone on and on about it, and I eventually found ONE online and bought it for him as a surprise. He did say thank you at the time (Saturday) and seemed grateful, but I have not heard from him since. I txt him today and asked him if he has listened to it and he sent a really sarcastic reply "yes yes its lovely, its great, thanks so much its amazing its fantastic wow thanks :P".
WHat hurt me the most was that I told him that he had hurt me and he wasn't being at all kind when all I was trying to do was try to do a kind deed and he, in not so many words, told me to stop being silly and childish and get over it. I am mostly hurt that he didnt try to make me feel better you know?
Why is it that men never ever try to make you feel better after they have hurt your feelings!
Should I just leave this be? The things is....he is a bit of a hot and cold person. He can be really sweet and kind and then he can be so cold and heartless and show no remorse (only child, very selfish!). It has happened a few times in the last 10 years and as petty as this story sounds, it's kinda like the last straw. But Im so biased with this bloke I tend to make excuses and Im never sure
So im here to ask you if he's being a f*ckwit
Thank you for listening I am very very annoyed and it just feels good to type it out!!