Re: Past "friend" reappears
Yes, it seems to be a dire situation.
Have you noticed any important change in your sexual life with her and especially in the way she behaves with you (the way she talks to you, shares things, tells about her day, her problems, does things together with you - shopping, house chores, outings, going out for dinner, etc)?
Has anything changed considerably in recent years or months? Has she expressed any dissatisfaction? Maybe you should start from here, I mean, indirectly.
She may be doing something wrong by talking to this guy behind your back, but I don't think (I may be wrong, though) you should bring this up immediately, at least not before talking to her and trying to find out where her feelings for you really stand now. The goal here is to have her open up her mind and heart with you, without forcing or threatening her. Maybe she will even go as far as to admit her involvement with this guy.
You may find this too delicate an approach to deal with this serious situation, but since the context includes her children and parents, young and old people, it is safer to act with caution. In view of her response, you will know what to do next.
Last edited by pendulum; 08-10-2008 at 08:53 AM.