Originally Posted by penniepie
......i need help guys....
I don't much like his picking on you and blaming you for feeling embarrassed in front of his family. It sounds as if he treats you like a small child, or what? Has he always been like that? (Familiarity brings contempt.) Does he ever apologize to you for his occasional rudeness? How does he behave towards other people?
What is perhaps important to check is: does he do it because he is a clumsy type of guy, or does he do it on purpose? Anyway, it seems that (t)his attitude is straining the relationship.
Stop and have a conversation with him during a time when he is more relaxed. (Does he perhaps get a lot of stress from his work or then takes it out on you? He must learn other ways to cope with his stress, you know.) Tell him clearly what is wrong in your relationship and ask him to change here and there and be available to change yourself as well. I think you may need to become stronger in some way. It is ok to be sensitive, it is ok to felt hurt by an inappropriate comment or observation from a dear one, but what if this is pattern for your life in every possible instance? Do you think everyone is out there to pick on you, to say hurtful things about you? I may be wrong, but I sense a drop of insecurity in your self-description. Perhaps you have a hard time making yourself accepted.
Your boy-friend may need ways to dispel his stress. Is he drinking or something? He may need instead more contact with nature, so he may calm down.
You may need a method of becoming less vulnerable. Maybe you could start some physical activity to build up your confidence and create a slightly rougher skin.