Re: What's your opinion of certain age gaps in relationships?
What's going on everybody? I wanted to kind of update you folks here on what's happened since I posted last.
Well, we've been dating and doing great. Our relationship is going strong. Her family and my family both click and we've just got something great going on. She graduates in several days and is so ready to be done and away from that place.
Interestingly enough, I turned 23 recently. Her and I are 4 years and about 2 months apart, so right now we're in that 2 month area where we're "5" years apart until she'd turn 19. We had a short talk this evening and she kinda looked at me like, wow, you're 23. I said so? She didn't have much of a reaction, so I just blurted out my entire thought process on the entire subject.
I said I'm not dating you "just because." I've dated girls my age and I've dated a girl that was 2 years older than me. I said there's a reason that I'm with you, and it's because you're more fun and more mature than all of them. You know how to handle important situations with logic and common sense and you also know how to rock out and just have fun.
Needless to say, it seemed like that area of the conversation kind of sealed the deal. Now granted, we've been dating for over 9 months now, and the age thing hasn't really come up that much. Every now and again you'd hear a remark and we'd talk about it for a minute and it'd be over. But I was just like, seriously? 4 years? How is that that big of a gap to worry about? Then I proceeded to name several couples we know who are 4 years or more apart - INCLUDING both her parents and my parents.
But, like I said, that conversation seemed to get diminished the very few times it came up. I think the only reason it came up this time was due to me turning 23 while she's 18, which I don't know if I'm being naive here but I don't even consider that to be earth shattering. If I was 27 I can see an eyebrow being raised at me dating an 18 year old. What do you guys think?
But anyway, we're doing great and things are strong. I appreciate the help I previously received from the users on this forum and I'm anxious to see if anybody else has any input, both positive or negative.
Last edited by lovinthev8; 05-25-2009 at 11:30 PM.