Re: Am I too sensitive or not enough?!
What you're doing is attempting to build up an impression of yourself - that doesn't exist in interpersonal interaction.
On IM, phone, email - you're giving an impression that you're very into them as an individual, very witty, charming, amusing, and insightful as a person yourself.
That creates the expectation on the other person's part that they're giong to meet a combination of Brad Pitt and George Stephanopolous, with some George Clooney thrown in for flair and chair and pizzazz.
They meet you - there'sno way that the expectation they have of how you are, and how attentive, amusing, charming, witty, humorous, and intuitive you are can be lived up to - so they go "blank" or "silent".
where's the charming man that seemed to know my every thought and feeling before I expressed it? Well - to create that impression and continue with thatdynamic - you needed teh space of non-immediate response and non-face to face involvement.