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Old 08-25-2008, 03:50 PM   #1
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is it that a woman's gut is right all the time?

i know that women have this "special power" when they have a gut instinct.
i have always followed mine, even if it took a while to believe it.. and its always turned out right. i have been very wishy washy the past month and its because of my gut feeling. right now, i am sick to my stomache. i dont know how i ate lunch and there is no way i could eat again. i dont know whats going on. i hate feeling this way.

 
Old 08-25-2008, 04:14 PM   #2
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I don't know that the gut is always right but there are a lot of nerves in the stomach which is like a second brain which reacts more emotionally. Read up on it, it is interesting.

 
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Re: how likely

What exactly is your gut feeling? Is it about your boyfriend, best friend or both? Judging from your previous posts...I would say if you have a bad feeling about your boyfriend, you are most likely right...if that's even what it's about...

 
Old 08-26-2008, 06:24 AM   #4
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My gut is usually right on. What is your's telling you? Do you care to ellaborate at all?

There have been many times I ingnored my gut and the feeling only got stronger and stronger until I couldn't any more. You should never ignore that feeling. Instead you should get to the bottom of what it is that is nagging you.

 
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Re: how likely

sillygoose.....trust your gut unconditionally, it's right 100% of the time

 
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you see, i dont know if im over reacting. ill go ahead and let it all out...

i went through the history on my laptop(i checked the history in the laptop of my ex and found out a lot more than i wanted. which ended the relationship. this is the first time i have done it in my current realtionship of 9 months)
...and i just noticed that he went to several different pages (my space), which were all girls that he knew..

just 2 that i didnt like for personal reasons.

ok. so who cares if he talks to girls i dont like. its okay for him to have friends, and im not going to tell him he cant.
i was taken by surprise about these girls, and i guess i thought he wouldnt talk to them if he knew i didnt like them. but i know that its different for guys, and some guys dont see it as a big deal if they arent doing anything wrong.

but really the only thing that bothers me is him deleting the history.

i've sent my male friend a message on my space and it was innocent, but i didnt feel like him questioning me about it, so i deleted the history. i felt i was avoiding a fight.
i have just been through this before with my ex, only my ex looked up 30 different women within a week that we moved in together & he didnt even know the girls.

with beau when i looked through the history i looked not expecting to find anything. he doesnt know that ive looked, because i dont know if hes actually doing something wrong. he is PROBABLY just talking to friends & to avoid any confrontation about it he deletes the history. i have done the same thing.
he doesnt act any different. i kind of feel like im just acting like a crazy girl. i just dont want to go through it all over again, it was so much pain before.

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Re: how likely

trust your gut......he's up to something.
on a positive note, at least you didn't find porn.

 
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i much rather have found porn. i just dont think he would do this to me. i know that he loves me. i think that hes probably not doing anything wrong, and he just wants to avoid a fight. i think its very possible.

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now that i have sat here & got my mind off it & did some work... i feel that he isnt doing anything wrong. i dont know. i am kind of getting 2 different feelings.. like in my head i think no he wouldnt do that, hes not like that & he can have a innocent conversation with other girls & it mean nothing. guys and girls CAN just be friends. i know its possible!! haha
but i still feel sick to my stomach. right now i couldnt eat if i was starving. maybe i just feel sick because this brought back memories of my ex?
also possible.
i still want opinions though... but for some reason i dont think hes doing anything wrong behind my back... i know that deleting history is wrong- but sometimes its "for the better". i mean, i dont need to go through that anyways. thats crazy. i trusted him before, so why wouldnt i trust him now? we shouldnt have to hide talking to a friend, but for some reason we do anyways-- like i mentioned.. i have done it too!!

i lost control over myself there for a minute.
it brought back memories of my ex- and i still wonder why my ex did that to me.

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I think you need to dig really deep within yourself and go with your gut feeling. If you choose to ignore this, at least don't forget it. I hate to say it, but if I were you, I would keep an eye out for anything suspicious. I am saying this partly due to your previous posts about your bf, best friend, etc.

It almost sounds to me as though you are trying to convince yourself that nothing is wrong, although you know deep down that something is. If I'm wrong about that, then good. But if not, don't fool yourself. I know that we women often choose to ignore the truth and try to convince ourselves of things other than what we know to not be right. Just yesterday you were saying you had such a gut feeling that something wasn't right, and now all of a sudden you are all but convinced everything is perfect again. It just seems something doesn't match up.

I'm not saying your bf is up to no good, for all we know, he may be perfectly innocent. And you may be over-reacting because of your past experiences with your ex. But, at the same time, don't ignore your feelings if you truly feel something is not right. It'd be better to find out now rather than later...

One more thing...the fact that you deleted a lot of your previous posts regarding your relationship makes me question if you are just trying to convince yourself that things are fine even more. Is there a reason you deleted them?

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Old 08-26-2008, 10:19 AM   #11
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I think you need to dig really deep within yourself and go with your gut feeling. If you choose to ignore this, at least don't forget it. I hate to say it, but if I were you, I would keep an eye out for anything suspicious. I am saying this partly due to your previous posts about your bf, best friend, etc.

It almost sounds to me as though you are trying to convince yourself that nothing is wrong, although you know deep down that something is. If I'm wrong about that, then good. But if not, don't fool yourself. I know that we women often choose to ignore the truth and try to convince ourselves of things other than what we know to not be right. Just yesterday you were saying you had such a gut feeling that something wasn't right, and now all of a sudden you are all but convinced everything is perfect again. It just seems something doesn't match up.

I'm not saying your bf is up to no good, for all we know, he may be perfectly innocent. And you may be over-reacting because of your past experiences with your ex. But, at the same time, don't ignore your feelings if you truly feel something is not right. It'd be better to find out now rather than later...
i am going to look out for anything suspicious. but there is no reason i shouldnt trust him. really.
i'm not convincing myself, i do understand that we tend to justify a lot when we are in relationships, and im just looking at both sides. im trying to put myself in his shoes, and think you know?
things arent perfect for me, i have been stressed out for a while now, about everything.. i dont want to ruin my relationship because im not thinking clearly.
the thing with jenny.. i dont know really. shes just young. i think it was her- i dont think it was him. i think he was just being her friend. he has never made me think, or feel like he was more into her than that.

if something is going on then he will slip up and i will find out... but im not going to dig around trying to find reasons not to trust him. i trust him & i know that he loves me.

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Old 08-26-2008, 10:22 AM   #12
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Those "social networking" sites are evil. So many people get in fights over them! I have people complaining to me that they're not on my "top friends", and I had one friend delete another friend and end the friendship because she said she never left comments on her page! Why do we need to create problems? Don't relationships have enough issues without creating more?

Think about it...you are stressing out over WORDS ON A COMPUTER SCREEN!!! Is he secretly meeting these girls? Calling them? Asking them for topless photos? Or is he just typing WORDS ON A COMPUTER SCREEN? Is he telling them he thinks they're hot? Asking to meet up? Talking bad about you to them?

You probably know the truth in your heart, but people getting so upset over something so trivial and useless...it's just causing problems that don't need to be there. I think you need to worry only if he's using this site to do something sneaky. If not, seriously, let it go.

 
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Redneon82 you are so right... and thats why i think i am over reacting. i dont know what hes saying to these girls.. i think my feelings were just hurt because they were girls i dont like.. but like i said im not the person to tell him who he can talk to, and i dont.
it is JUST a networking site & it does cause a lot of UNNECCESSARY drama.. the only reason i questioned anything was because it was more than that to my ex boyfriend.

i have just been through this before. i have never taken this network that seriously... about top friends & ending friendships because of comments thats just over board.
you are right though. it just causes so many problems.
after talking about it i do see how stupid this is.

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One more thing...the fact that you deleted a lot of your previous posts regarding your relationship makes me question if you are just trying to convince yourself that things are fine even more. Is there a reason you deleted them?
Mary i didnt really delete them for any particular reason. i just feel like i got the advice i asked for. I dont like "my business" lingering.. does that make sense? My relationship, nor my life is perfect. They both have their ups & downs. I didnt delete them to convince myself everything is fine. For some reason i prefer to delete them after its done with.. ya know?

 
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Gotcha. I understand that. And, ya never know who may come across these boards and find out all kinds of things... So I have to agree with you there.

 
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