Originally Posted by sillysilly_ goose
anyways, what i want to know is-
1. how can i keep myself from trying to control everything, every detail and every thought of others?
2. how can i be okay with not getting my way?
3. how can i not stress myself out, when things dont go the way i want them to go?
You have asked three questions, but they are three
questions only in disguise: actually it is just one
question - how can I live a whole life?
Here a few suggestions:
Focus on yourself, on your projects, your goals, on what you have to do
. At the same also concentrate on what you are doing to reach your goal, that is on the way
. The way to reach your goal is as important as your goal itself. Somehow, you may never reach your goal, but if you have paid attention to the way while you were on the way, then you will have learned something at least, even if you fail.
Start with a physical activity on a regular basis: it could something like yoga or Swedish Gymnastics, whatever. But it is important for you to develop the habit of working with your body and paying attention to it rather than your thoughts. This doesn't mean, however, you are to become a superficial person.
Learn to listen. Listen more than speak.
Don't blame other people.
Smile oftener. Don't take offence at petty things. Don't retaliate. Just register what someone did to you, but move on. When you are angry, don't do anything until it is over.
Look after your personal health. Improve your sleeping patterns. Sleeping well is a good way of dealing with stress and fatigue and fear.
Accept that life is a cycle: if not today, then maybe tomorrow.
Also accept that this is an imperfect world. Do as best as you can, but stay humble with your achievements.
And never forget to say "thank you" and to apologize, when appropriate.