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Old 09-05-2008, 02:34 PM   #1
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Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

Hello All.

I am male, 26 yrs old. I have been losing my hari slowly since about the age of 19,20. I take pills for it to slow it down(propecia) if it was not for that I would be bald already for sure. I had an aggreisve early onest of MPB inherited from my father. He was fully bald by 25. My hair currently looks like the actor's jude law. It has deceant density but my hairline is heading to the back of my head. I dont why but latley I have been so stressed out about it. I know I am not uber young still, but I think that in your 20's this is not something you should have to worry about. I dont feel worthy of girls anymore. I have many that like me, and at first they dont notice the hair...but as they see me more they notice and it takes them back a bit. I am a pretty charming guy and have a good sense of humor, but losing your hair at a young age is a social nightmare. Receantly I had this increadily gourgoues 20 yr old girl that looked exatly like megan fox into me. We made out once and then she found out my hair was going(imagine through strokeing my hair) and she doesnt seemed interested anymore. I feel like shaving it and getting a good tan. I am already in good shape...I am working on getting a bod like bradd pitt from fight club. But aside from the hair thing as well, I am short. 5'7''. This two cards have been killing me on the inside my whole life. There are moments when I don't feel like trying anymore. I mean what is the point to anything if you cant share it with another person? I know if I shave my head I can kiss goodbye the girls that I find attaractive.-physically and personality wise. I dont know wut to do, can someone life my head up.

 
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Old 09-05-2008, 02:42 PM   #2
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

I don't want to minimize your pain, but you are making too big deal of the your lack of hair. I am a woman and hair isn't that important. I think that if girls lose interest in you, it is something else that is the problem, not your hair. You are not your hair. Also, don't compare yourself with famous actors, that will just make you depressed. I know many men who are successful both professionally and with women and who don't have much hair on their head. If you really feel that women lose interest in you because of your lack of hair, you are probably approaching wrong women. If you are shallow and mainly focus on looks, then you will have to deal with women who focus on looks as well and who do want a Brad Pitt look alike with a lot of hair on his head. Rethink your own values and priorities.

 
Old 09-05-2008, 02:46 PM   #3
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

Some guys look really good with a shaved head. My boyfriend is 5'8 and I don't have a problem with his height at all. I am only 5'4. I think there are probably a lot more people who are considered short or average than there are all tall. I think 5'7 is probably pretty average.

 
Old 09-05-2008, 02:48 PM   #4
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

My husband had your problem...he started to loose his very fine hair in the last few years at school. Apparently he tried everything to slow it down etc. nothing worked.
I clearly remember the moment I first saw him...his almost bald head, walked into the room. I thought he was absolutely stunning. It was actually the way he held himself, with confidence, the bald head was an added extra.
Believe it or not there are plenty of women out there who love bald headed men. I reckon shave it (a number one or two) you're lucky close cuts are also very sexy and trendy in this generation.
And remember the very important saying
Bald patches - solar panels for a sex god!

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Old 09-05-2008, 03:02 PM   #5
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

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I know if I shave my head I can kiss goodbye the girls that I find attaractive.-physically and personality wise. .
just another thought - how do you know this? And why would you be attracted to someone who is superficial enough to be demanding a full head of hair. Surely you should be attracted to someone who finds YOU, THE PERSON attractive (not just the head of hair...)
By the way I reckon men grow taller when the walk and hold themselves confidently.

 
Old 09-05-2008, 03:08 PM   #6
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

Well this chick was a model so I am assueming that she has high standards of the guys she dates.And plus she is 20, so why hang out with a balding guy when she can have a guy that is not? and taller too boot. Yah she is probably materialistic and shallow, so not so worrried about that. It is more how i feel about myself. I dont feel like a normal guy in his 20's. O well Im gonna go in the military soon, so it is gonna be pretty standard for a shaved head. I guess on the whole I should still be able to get girls I am attarcted too, I just need to be able to be confident about it. Not as easy as said. Shave your head! Ahah just kidding. I wish I was darker skinned thought. I am norweigen...blonde hair and blue eyes...shaving is gonna make me look wierd.

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Old 09-05-2008, 03:09 PM   #7
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

My husband and son have MPB. Hairy body and bald and not very tall. It is from over abundance of testosterone..if that makes you feel better.

Today's men are shaving their heads and I think it is sexier than seeing the bald patch. If you can pull it off, it shows confidence.

Smart women are far more attracted to a man that is confidant and successful. Don't think for one minute that your looks are keeping you from great women.

My husband was never at a loss for girl friends and my son is 20 and has a girl friend and he is almost bald. He shaves his head and I love it.

 
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Well this chick was a model so I am assueming that she has high standards of the guys she dates.....

Does this mean that bald men are less worthy!? I think my bald headed husband is the most wonderful man in the word or do you mean women how are attracted to bald men have low standards. I think that comment is ridiculous

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Old 09-05-2008, 04:13 PM   #9
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

My boyfriend shaves his head due to losing hair at a young age. I have seen him in pictures with hair and he looks 100% times better without hair. He is a very handsome man, females always stare..

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Old 09-05-2008, 05:16 PM   #10
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Yeah but are they darker skinned? A lot of darker skinned guys looked good with a shaved head. I am light skinned, I can tan if I go for it awhile. Anyhow it is just stressful ,it feels like losing a limb or something. If you were a women and you had nice big breast and all of the sudden you starting losing them slowly wouldnt you lose your confidence? I know that is not a perfect compairson, but hair is like an asset to your overall look. Some guys do look good w/o hair I agree, but I would not. I suppose I just have to get used to it. I will probably buzz it down soon, it is starting to look bad with the temple recesion. I am just scared that I will look <unattractive>.


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. And no I don't think hair loss makes you less of a man, I just think that it is unfortunate. My comment about the model is that she has the pick of the mill, she can get any guy she wants...so at the age why would she chose some guy that is half bald? That is just my 2 cents.

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Old 09-05-2008, 05:44 PM   #11
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

I know if I shave my head I can kiss goodbye the girls that I find attaractive.-physically and personality wise.

To be honest here, that's a pretty superficial statement. What is YOUR idea of an attractive girl? Tall, blonde, size 2? Comon', that would make you as shallow as any girl who wouldn't give you a chance because you're balding.

As far as shaving goes, did you even watch the Olympics? Phil Dalhausser, the US beach volleyball player...total fox.

I'm currently smitten with someone who shaves it all off (probably because he started losing it young as well). And I used to be hardcore into the shaggy haircut rocker boys. You just never know who you're going to fall for.

 
Old 09-05-2008, 06:45 PM   #12
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I can totally relate to you, I am 22 and have a receding hairline. I have been using rogaine for about a year now and have been on propecia for about 8 months. Both are not working. I actually have an appointment with a hair loss specialist next week ironically.

I can relate to you because I am way too young to be having these problems. I am a very outgoing guy, alot of confidence, work out religiously and have a a nice figure. But the hair loss issue sets me back. I think once my hairline gets to a certain point where its extremely obvious, I will have to forget about most girls ever showing interest in me. While I am not to this point yet, my hair will be at that point most likely within a year.

I think that my hair issue is magnified by my age; most girls my age are superficial about appearance. While I realize that older girls will not be like this, I really dont feel like waiting until my late 20's early 30's to start dating again. I really didnt believe it at first, but I have come across many girls recently and you can tell that my hair is the issue. At an age where most girls/guys are just getting into relationships for fun and nothing serious, I think being bald will always put you behind most other guys.

I know some girls will not be really put off from my hair but I think that enough will be that I will have a very hard time finding a girl that not only likes me but that I like as well. I think thats a key here, its hard to find a girl who doesnt mind your hair but you also have to like them as well.

I am also white skinned as well and have assumed that if I shaved my head that it would still show my hair line. I had always assumed that it would solve my issues, but I dont see how it could if the hairline is still noticable.

Its very depressing but I think when I get my diploma in december that I will be accepting it as a bald man, not by choice. Im gonna be honest, I dont really see myself having any serious relationships after my hair goes.

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Old 09-05-2008, 06:54 PM   #13
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how does seeing a girl that is in shape attractive as being shallow? The last girl I was with was 5'8 120 lbs and a size 0. I have been with 4 models, and another chick that one the state beauty contest. I work out all the time and it is an amount of self respect that I take seriously, so I look for that in companions as well. I guess my standards are high and I don't think I am being shallow for wanting a girl that takes care of herself. I think shallow would be only looking for looks and not considering personality, which is very important to me as well. All in all i been with about 40 girls, I actually don;t feel too good about myself at the core, I think I wrote apost about this somewhere else. Im a bit jaded about women too. Every single girl that a friend of mine has dated has tried to get me into bed. I do not trust any girl, I always expect them to cheat or abandon me. I have a horrible time getting close to them. I had a lot of girls cheat on me, and now with this hair thing I feel a lot less attractive, and am losing my confident edge.

Ahah dang gets it.

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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

How old are you again!?

 
Old 09-05-2008, 07:15 PM   #15
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Re: Losing my hair at 26. Who is gonna want me?...Im getting real depressed Help!

Its unfortunate but true, most girls are superficial about things like this. Guys are too but in society its the guys who are , labeled as superficial. However, girls are also the same way, they might just be more secretive about it and girls have this innocence about them and no one would suspect they could be superficial.

And again, I realize that it would not deter every girl, but I think the majority of them will be turned off by it. I realize that some bald guys look good but baldness is not for everyone, I definetly wouldnt look good bald. And most of those that do shave their heads do it for the look and are not losing their hair. Their hairline can clearly be seen on them to be normal so they have nothing to worry about. I think once a girl gets a good look at your shaved head and it becomes evident that you did it because of your obvious receding hairline, most girls will be put off. I have come to realize that even if I shave my head, my hairline will still be shown. I just dont see myself having a bright future in terms of long term relationships. I think maybe once I reach 30 I can start to feel that I can start dating again, but girls my age are for the most part superificial about things like that.

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