Don't know if I'm being fooled or if I just think too much - ideas? - Relationship Health Message Board

sumsum77 · 10-09-2008, 08:48 AM

Hi nice people from the Forum,
I got divorced not long ago and have been alone since then. At work and at school there's lots of guys that would like to date me because I'm still young, but I don't find them interesting. At school all the guys I'm younger than me cause I went back to school not long ago, after a break of four years (To complete my Master's Degree), and at work there's a lot of business-like people that are really not my type. I don't have many friends at the time since I totally dettached myself from the shared circle of friends I had with my ex-husband. And then I met this guy. He is a famous guy, with money, good-looking and stuff. I totally fell for him, and we had sort of an adventure. He lives abroad so we stayed in touch by e-mail and msn, but a month ago he stopped communicating with me. I miss him a lot but he doesn't want to talk to me. He says that he is going through a lot of personal problems and that he doesn't think it is "appropiate" that we communicate at the moment. I don't even know what he means. We had agreed to meet during the next vacation and I was so excited about it. Now I don't know what to think. I don't know if I should forget about him and start dating other men, cause I don't want to find somebody that I really like and then, if he comes back to my life, I would be in the midst of a predicament. I would like to talk to him again, or at least that he would tell me what is going on. I sent him an e-mail the other day asking him if he wanted me to dissapear from his life and he answered immediately asking me to be patient, asking me for time. A friend told me that I should be patient and give him the time that he is asking for. Maybe I should?? Or maybe he is just fooling me, wasting me time, how should I know, I only know him since July. I would really like to see him again, he is such an amazing person, and we made so many plans together, to get involved in projects together because we work in the same industry.. I don't know what to think. I need some ideas please.

rosequartz · 10-09-2008, 08:55 AM

did you meet him in person?
I'd move on.....don't wait for him.....he's got "personal problems"?
hmmmmm did he elaborate?

happymom28 · 10-09-2008, 08:55 AM

Being patient and giving him the space and time he needs doesn't mean that you can't still have a good time. You are not committed to this man and it would be wrong of him to expect you not to date when he can't even give you the common decency of explaining to you what is going on. So my advice is to just go out and have fun. Just because you go on a date or two with someone else doesn't mean that you have to get all serious. And, if you do develop feelings for someone else in the process then you can decide whether or not to explore those feelings or to wait and see what happens with guy number 1.

The worst thing you can do is put your life on hold, especially when you can't even get a straight forward answer as to why you are holding or for how long, you know? Anyway, that's just my two cents.

Mileena42 · 10-09-2008, 11:27 AM

I also agree that I would not put my life on hold for this man. You didn't have an understanding that you wouldn't date other people? Assume he has issues that might keep him for a while...and go OUT! Have fun....if he comes back...YAY! If he doesn't........by that time maybe it won't matter so much.

Mileena

BeaTrade · 10-09-2008, 01:04 PM

If you've never met this guy, he could be anyone...some convict sitting in jail! My niece and nephew once swore up and down they were talking to "Hanson"...AS IF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'd be extremely leary of anyone claiming to be rich and famous!