I wonder why people ususally tend to give short statements that are designed to "make you feel better", after a breakup. I have heard a lot of them, since my breakup, and though I appreciate people's attempt to "make me feel better", I have to wonder how good/true most of them are. I won't get into the statements from my "religious friends", because that's a completely different matter (and is being discussed on boards of a religious nature). However, here are a few examples:
"She's out there, waiting for you to come along."...[This notion isn't assured.]
"She's trying to get here as fast as she can."...[Rather "fairy tale-ish".]
"That just means that there is someone better for you out there."...[This notion isn't assured, either.]
"See, you were able to attract a girl."...[this one is harder to hear because, though I may HAVE attracted her, I just as quickly lost her, because I wasn't good enough for her].
"Take some time out for to get to know yourself as a single person." ...[I've had years of "getting to know that person".]
I could go on, but the point it, . . . why don't people just say, "Yeah, that really sucks. I'm here for you." I only had one or two people say that to me, . . . and to be honest, it was they were the most helpful to me. To be honest, the LEAST helpful. . . . have been the "religious friends", . . .again not a topic for this board.
What is YOUR opinion on such statements? I know that there is some level of truth to each of them, so I am not completely rejecting them, . . . just offering my take on such things.
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