reba423

Many of you have responded to my previous post about the breakup of a recent relationship with a guy after we went to paris together. It's been about 2 weeks now and while I have to honestly say that I don't miss him, I of course miss dating and spending time with someone special and all that comes with it. However, I struggled with the end of our short 4 month relationship as he ended it after he invited me to Paris and we spent 4 days there together, saying that i exhaust him and that after he's with me he feels more exhaused then energized. He also criticized that fact that we drank a lot of wine together and the fact that we spent so much time in an internal relationship and didn't do that much outside the home. But the fact is, he complained that I exhausted him and he always wanted to lay around and eat and drink in bed. We did go out to dinners, lunch, movies, hiking, and then there's the Paris trip.

Problem is I continue to think that I somehow did something wrong and I'm flawed and that I ruined a good thing by, I don't know, being to wild, or wanting to have fun too much? I don't know, there was plenty of seriousness to the relationship. I just read Steve Harvey's book, Think like a man, act like a woman and I can't see what I did wrong, except of course, be too nice to him. That said, I was not at his beck and call, I am busy and had my own things going on, did not call him much, let him persue me in the beginning. Of course when I became more interested in him, he pulled away.

Those of you that have read my posts know about his childish behavior, the fact that he has problems sustaining a relationship with a woman and that he talked incessantly about his exes to me.

But I am waking up at night, not sleeping well, thinking I'm the one who is screwed up here and feeling very rejected. According to him, I was everything he wanted and I was head and shoulders above any woman he's ever been with. Everything about me that he was crazy about in the beginning, he complained about in the end, including my sex drive, saying that i tired him out.

I just can't stop feeling like I'm flawed, like I messed this up. I know in my head that he very likely is not ready for a relationship and that a lot of things that he bragged about himself weren't entirely true, but he was a pretty open and honesty guy, at least outwardly. We seemed to have so much in common on the surface, but I just don't know what happened and it makes me feel like crap and I"m losing sleep. I'm also afraid that it's taken a dent out of my self-esteem and I don't want that to affect the way I project myself outwardly nor affect my ability to get involved in a future relationship.

How does one break this cycle?