I'll try to make this short. I have been with a woman for about 2 yrs. She has been living with me for the last 7 months due to her previous living situation. I have a tendency to want to rescue women. That's my second problem.
The first problem relates to where I'm at now. About 1 month into the relationship she read my e-mail behind my back. I should have ended it then but didn't. We do get along pretty well but I can't seem trust her. Seems to be getting worse too. Me letting her live here was not an open ended offer, but I feel she thinks so, even after me reminding her of that 2 wks. ago.
To top things off...I have bi-polar. This is something I've struggled with all my life and feel she is really the first person to support me. So I feel guilty that I even think about asking her to leave. Because of the bi-polar I have wanted to be 'alone' much of the time lately. Not sure if it's just her and the trust issue or just wanting to be alone. Don't necessarily want to end the relationship though.
I do go to talk therapy as well as see a pdoc.
It sounds like time for you two to talk openly about the terms of your relationship. Every relationship needs a set of ground rules to go by. This does not have to confrontational, rather informational. Perhaps you could create some kind of outline, of what you would be comfortable with. Then ask her to create a similar outline of what she expects. Then the negotiations begin.
Deal breakers should be discussed as well. This is a fair way to show proper respect for each others wishes, and create a framework, on which to build your future, as a team, and as an individual.
Before setting ground rules though, I think you should tell her how much you appreciate her, that she is the first person to really understand you. She will be much happier and much more willing to listen if she knows that what's coming next, the "ground rules" are not meant as criticism of her, but rather, as a way of improving the relationship between you even more.
Never stop telling your loved ones how much you love them.
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