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Old 08-31-2009, 07:25 PM   #1
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Angry how to i fix myself?

i was with my last boyfriend for a year and a half. I was so very much in love. But he constantly cheated on me (i ignored the signs and rumors because i didnt want to believe it) and he was played alot of mind games. Well i finally ended it with him, and that was two years ago.
i havnt had a bf since. ive dated.. ive had sexual relationships.

but now im at the point of wanting to settle down and have a future with someone, and I get hit on constantly but... everytime this is what happens:

ill talk to a guy and think i like him but after 2+ wks i just get annoyed. Its like im emotionally numb and cant develop feelings.

wat do i do?
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Old 09-01-2009, 05:05 AM   #2
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Re: how to i fix myself?

Hmmm...

For a while, maybe, focus on your career, on your studies, on learning or developing your skills, on improving your personal health, etc rather than on romantic relationships.

This has another name: becoming mature. We all need it, not only you.

 
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Old 09-01-2009, 07:11 AM   #3
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Re: how to i fix myself?

take a break for a while.....focus on something else besides relationships

 
Old 09-01-2009, 01:30 PM   #4
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Re: how to i fix myself?

Perhaps you just have not found the right guy...or you just did not give yourself enough time to get over the last one properly. Maybe you could join a club for a hobby of yours and maybe you will meet somebody special that you have a lot in common with.

 
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Re: how to i fix myself?

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you just did not give yourself enough time to get over the last one properly. Maybe you could join a club for a hobby of yours and maybe you will meet somebody special that you have a lot in common with.
Thanks, the only thing is. when i ended it with him... i didnt go on a date for almost a year. I joined the military 8 months ago. I keep busy with my job, school and i play sports for the base.

so you think its possible i need to speak to someone professional.
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Re: how to i fix myself?

I think it's great that you want to improve yourself, I don't call it fixing as you don't sound broken.

It doesn't hurt to see a professional, I have gone to therapy and when it's the right therapist really enjoyed it as well as learning about myself.

Keep us updated okay?
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