My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months and I still can't seem to be able to make him orgasm.
I give him handjobs/blowjobs, I don't do the latter as often or for very long because I don't enjoy it, but when I give him a handjob, he is always nearly there but even if I carry on for another 5-10 minutes, it just doesn't happen. I don't have much stamina as it is but I do try my best until my arm is really hurting.
We have discussed it and he says he is going to stop masturbating altogether and see if that helps. But why should he have to? Surely other couples masturbate and are able to make each other orgasm? Its so confusing. He has already gone almost a week without doing it to himself and last night he said it was closer but not close enough...is he too aware of himself or too nervous? He said it was also due to the fact I'm his first girlfriend and sexual partner and he has never ****** in front of anyone but himself before. He kept saying "its gonna be everywhere, what are we going to do with it?" I don't really get that, I mean, I know it does spurt out but if he does it on me or in my hand or a tissue surely thats okay? I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong if anything?
He hasn't been able to have sex with me yet either due to nerves...is this whole thing a nervous/anxiety problem or a physical thing?
He is going for blood tests to see if he has anything wrong i.e. diabetes etc. I know hes not gay because he likes to do stuff to me and if he was gay he wouldnt surely?
We only have to kiss and he gets "excited" so whats the deal?
Is he just too nervous or am i doing something horribly wrong?