A super close friend of mine fell off the face of the earth.
To make the long story short, he cheated on his gf with HER friend
. Well his gf found out and she went berserk. She kicked him out of their home so he temporarily moved back in with his grandparents. We have always been super close and our friendship goes way back. He obviously called me and sought for advice. I told him that there was not much he can do. He can continue to pursue her and show her that he is terribly sorry but at the end of the day, the ball is in her court and she does not owe him anything.
Well apparently his angry GF called him and told him that the only way she can forgive him and get past the situation is if she goes and screws somebody else.
uhmmm okay... so he was smart enough to tell her no, he was not accepting that. Well how about she calls again and this time she tells him that she would like to work on their relationship. she says she is mad at him however she still wants to be with him - he called and told me about this so I was very supportive and I told him that that was a good sign. This is where it gets crazy... While she does want to fix their relationship, he has to continue living with his grandparents and he cannot hang out with anybody for a month
He has to be at home, all the time, on lock down while she runs around and does whatever
-- I told him that was stupid and that made no sense whatsoever. He bought into this whole thing and explained to me that she does not trust him therefore, his butt should be at home and he cannot hang out/go out with any of his friends - please help me because I do not see the connection or the relevance.
It gets worse... he decides to visit her early one morning and apparently another guy was in their bedroom!!! Her response to him "you cant be mad at me." My friend wants to believe her bs so bad he even told me that she insisted she did not sleep with that other guy. My friend also feels its justified that his girl messed around with another man since he cheated on her first.
Okay, so I gave him my two cents. I told him that he DID NOT NEED TO BE WITH THIS GIRL. Its a different story if she told him that SHE DID NOT WANT TO BE WITH HIM and he still continued to pursue things with her. If he found out she was messing with another guy - oh well - thats his fault. But she told him she wanted to make things work, then turns around and sleeps with another guy. You don't try to fix a relationship then turn around and seek for retaliation. Well I told him how I felt...
I called him the next day to check on him and he quickly told me he was with her and hung up. Its been almost a week and he has not bothered to call. What gives? Is he embarrassed to call because despite all that craziness he STILL went back to her? I am quite irritated. Yes I disagree with his actions but that is his life, not mine. What bothers me is the fact that he just fell off the face of the earth. What gives? I am also irritated because it was my cousin's bday the other day and him and my cousins are even closer friends - he REFUSES to hang out with us because he is "tired" - which is a lie. He loves to go out with us and the only reason he did not is because one of the terms given to him by his girl was to stay at his grandparents' and to not go out. He has never done anything like this before... so I dont really know how to handle it. Apart of me feels like I should just leave him be and when he comes to his senses, cool but another part of me is ticked off that he does not care to call us or check in with us because they are back together. That is so stupid.
Sorry I had to vent.