Long term tension with my sister and it's frustrating
Thanks for your help.
My sister and I have always had a tension filled relationship. She has always given me the feeling that I have been walking on egg shells, and for the most part I avoided her as a kid.
As adults this relationship had continued, and it's frustrating and hurtful that I have to deal with it. The first time she met my husband (we were dating at the time) she walked away from the table because something her husband said offended her, which wasn't offensive. She threw a fit and never came back, leaving everyone in the restaurant to wonder what the deal was.
The last time I really saw her was at a camping trip. I was sitting in a chair, and she approached me and said "get out of my chair!" (a typical way that she addresses me) and I finally just said, please don't address me like that. She rolled her eyes. BTW, she was 29 years old at the time.
Later that night she was in my chair, so I said the same thing in order to communicate how that felt. She was so offended that the situation spired downward. and the last day of the trip she had a meltdown, was screaming at everyone including calling her husband an ****&^% in front of my parents.
She ended up blaming that on me and telling my mom that she'll never invite me again to a camping trip or anything ever. She invites my parents to things but does not tell me when she's in town. She never responds to me unless pressured by my mom.
The whole thing is sad for me and I want a different sister. I'm too old for this. I've apologized before but she gives a brief "okay whatever" response. Honestly, I really am too old for this.
She's on facebook and it brings up hurt feelings to see her on there. She doesn't even acknowledge my birthday, or invitations I send her to various things.
What should I do. I've daydreamed about hypnosis to forget she ever existed.
She refuses to have a constructive conversation. She's used to just screaming at people.