Originally Posted by AWF82
The going to school first was agreed upon by both of us. He didn't want me going to a homeless shelter. I gave up schooling to try to be the housewife he wanted and to run his business.
I fail to see how that is using his support and then dumping him?
Well you failed to include that statement in your original post. I believe that's why Seraph wrote that. I agree with her.
You say that long before the marriage began, the love had faded. Love is the basic foundation for a marriage, helps couples get through life's obstacles together. A best friends type of love. Without it, it's pretty much a weak foundation. The only exceptions to this rule are those that marry for economic, cultural (like arranged marriages), personal reasons (like aging, family pressure, haven't found anyone better) etc. But even love plays a role in those too.
In my opinion, it doesn't sound like you will be able to fall in love again. You seem to be too far gone. It is possible for some people, but they are the ones who are able to "reconnect" with their significant other by 'going back' to what it was that brought forth their love in the first place. This usually happens in longer term marriages when things have 'settled' and the couple has lost touch, but both want to become closer again- This does not seem to be the case for you.
If you feel you can work out the issues that have driven you apart, then I think you should try. Begin with simple things like date nights, eat dinner together daily (or as much as possible) with no television, just talk to each other. The only way to reconnect with him is to converse with him. Go out and do activities together that you both enjoy, one-on-one.
If things don't work out, and he's truly okay with supporting your education financially while knowing full well that you'll be leaving afterwards, then I guess it's for the best and both of you can move on. I must say, that's quite a man though, I do not know of one whom would agree to that arrangement.
One other thing. You said that you gave up school in order to become the housewife he wanted. Almost like you're leading the life he's picked out for you. In the future, I wouldn't make such a drastic change if your heart is not in it. I know you did it for him, but sacrificing one's wishes often builds future resentment. I think you have some. Does that make sense? Anyway, good luck and blessings to you.