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Old 04-06-2010, 01:58 AM   #1
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My Ex wont let go...

Hi,

Just hope you will tell me if I was wrong or right...
I was dating my ex-boyfriend for the past 5 years and things did not work out. He kept on asking me for another chance (this was not our first break-up) but I already moved on. He would not stop smsing me and telling me how he has changed. The problem I have now is that yesterday I ended up telling him to move on and he said he has moved on (but I could tell he has not moved on because he is still on my case) then I ended up telling him that am pregnant with another man's child (the man I have moved on with.) My problem now is that I feel very pitty for him because it seems like I broke his heart by telling him that because I could tell that he is not yet over me. I have moved on even though my current boyfriednt (baby's father) has dissappeared and I even lied to my ex; I told him that I am getting married sometime this year. Did I really have to tell him that I am pregnant or should I have just kept quite?

 
Old 04-06-2010, 05:42 AM   #2
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Re: My Ex wont let go...

Your pregnancy isn't a secret, is it? I would say it is important enough to mention to this ex to let him know it's done and over. I think your feelings are more about your own problems. He is an ex for a reason; remember that. Sort out your life on your own if necessary. The last thing you need is a complication like this ex. Sera.

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Old 04-06-2010, 06:05 AM   #3
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Re: My Ex wont let go...

Hi Seraph,

Thank you so much for your replies. At least now I know what to do in both cases; the woman who keeps answering my bf's phone and the ex who would not let go. You are sure right, my pregnancy is no secret... Thanks a million sister!!

 
Old 04-06-2010, 09:55 AM   #4
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Re: My Ex wont let go...

I think "ex"s sometimes stay attached because we let them. We are not clear with our boundaries either in fear of hurting them or because we like feeling important to them. Exs are not usually a problem if you are clear.

You just posted a seperate thread about your current boyfriend's ex being in the picture. Same attachement problem. I think the issue is not with your ex's but with your unclear boundaries- yours with your ex and your boyfriends with his ex.
Perhaps you are both just not ready to let go of the past and move on 100 percent together.

 
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