I'm only 5'4" so most guys ARE taller than me, it's not like I pick them that way, they just are.
I think the only thing you're missing is that there are more taller guys than short guys and the shorter guys tend to look for shorter girls. It's not like there's some big conspiracy against short guys. But it would be less likely for a girl who is 6ft tall to date a guy that is only 5'5.
Well I prefer a taller man, mainly.....taller then me. For myself, it goes to an issue of security. I feel safer going up to my significant other and burrying my head in his chest while he throws his arms over me as opposed to towering over him, his head in my chest, and me throwing my arms around him. It feels more like hugging your kid. I cant explain it, that's just the way it is. Having said that, my husband was 1 inch shorter then me, so although initially I like a taller guy, just because he's slightly vertically challenged doesn't mean it's a complete no. But then there is the case of my good buddy whom I will call mr. x. Mr. x. has had a crush on me since highschool, has been apart of my life for as long as I can remember, and is really a great guy. He was there when my husband passed away, he was there when my children were born, he has just allways been there. He has asked me at least 1000 times why I dont give it a shot. At the end of the day, the reason is nothing more then that he is about 7 inches shorter then me and weighs probably 30 pounds less then me. NO WAY! And just to give a little insight, I'm 5'9" and weigh about 155. So It's a total turn off and I cant even imagine it for a second. Nothing against the guy, but there is absolutely no physical chemistry there as a result. Icant explain it, it is just the way it is for me.
It's just a sad fact of life that tall people, bot men and women, are considered smarter, more attractive and more competent than shorter people. Most women do prefer taller men because women instinctively feel they are more powerful and more capable and would be better providers and protectors. BUT...that doesn't mean a shorter man doesn't have a chance. I knew a guy who was only 5'3" or so and he never had any problem getting girls. Attitude can go a long way to compensate for any verticle challenges.
I'm short and I like tall guys, but tall guys also like me back. What I have observed (no research, just observation) is that short girls like tall men, and tall men like short girls. So tall women are usually left with short men because the tall ones like the short ones, and short men seem to always be attracted to tall women.
I always had this discussion with my friend who is 5"10 and only gets hit on by short men and then she yells at me for taking the tall men . Not my fault. . Perfect examples- Eva Longoria and NBA star Tony Parker VS Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman/ Katie Holmes
5' 8" for a man is average, so you're not short.
As for women being attracted to tall men, I agree with those who mentioned the security thing, feeling like a tall man is stronger and more protective. Of course that is not always the case but I think its natures way to make us feel that way.
I'm 5' 4" so any man 5' 5" and up seems tall lol.
Also the ratio of taller men with a shorter woman might be because in general men are just usually taller than most women (as a whole, an average).
But i find lots of men who are not "tall" to be just as attractive. Tom Crusie has a great smile
I'm 5ft so EVERYONE is taller than me!!!!! (River rocks, I'd give the world to be 5'4!! ). I usually date tall (6ft- 6'3) guys, but my last 2 bfs have been average. I don't height discriminate, but I will admit, I do sometimes think of the unborn children and their height! LOL. But since I don't consider height to really be an attraction, I'm willing to negotiate . I'll take a great smile over inches!
Curly Fry- there might be something to what you said..evening out the genes! If you're 5'0 and your mate is 6'0 you might have 5'6 kids? Makes sense actually tho I never thought of it before. (BTW Hugh Jackman is 6'2", in your dating pool!!
I'm 5'2 1/2" (and believe me, I do always mention that extra 1/2"!!) and my son's father is 6'2". Our son is 6'4"! Holy cow! My son hates, absolutely HATES being that tall! He hits his head on tree branches, doorways, getting into a car, and everyone is waaayyy shorter than him so when he and his friends pose for pictures he has to crouch. I, on the other hand, envy women like JustMel. I'd love, love, love to be 5'9"! I can't see anything at events or concerts and I can't reach anything on the top shelves at the store. My son can change a light bulb without a ladder, while I have to stand on a chair to get things out of my kitchen cabinets. Pants are too long for me and I've had to resort to shopping at Kids R Us on occasion. Not cool. While my son has to search stores to find pants in a 34" length, and can't find shirts long enough. Not to mention his size 13 1/2 feet!
My son does tend to date taller girls simply because the shorter ones act intimidated by him! I've explained to him that girls like tall men, but he isn't buying. So, just a different perspective.
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I had the best sex ever with an old boyfriend that said he was 5'6" so he was probably 5'5" haha. I'm only 5'3" so I have never been with anyone shorter than me. It's an evolutionary thing - apparently a girl's weight doesn't matter so much as having the "perfect" ratio of .7 waist to hip. I learned that in a psych class. Same goes for tall men, but people who aren't shallow don't consider it terribly important. My boyfriend is actually a foot taller than me and we look kind of goofy to be honest.
My longest term BF was about 1 inch shorter than me. Granted, not a real big gap but sometimes an inch matters.
Ironically, just tonight I saw an add on a list of men seeking women. The man said he was 5-8 and wanted "no Yeti women" (that's a quote), no one over 5-5. I'd say it's not the woman who has an issue with height in that situation.
I am about 5'8" or a little more, but I have been 5'8" since about 5th grade it seems. I always felt awkward because I was always head and shoulders above everyone else until I got into late high school. What I really hate is my big feet! I didn't intentionly marry a tall person, but because I always hated being the giant, I may have unconsciously migrated toward a taller guy. My grandfather was very very tall (around 6'7). Later, after I got out of high school, I found out my nickname with the guys where I used to work was a m a z o n. I hate that so much, although there are probably people who would love it. So I guess what I'm saying is that there are disadvantages to being tall as well. Maybe some of the tall girls pick tall guys because they want to feel shorter.
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