Re: do i trust him?
I'm pretty cynical and usually I'd say "once a cheater, always a cheater" or "of course he'd cheat on you if he could cheat on a woman he wanted to marry." The truth is, I used to cheat too, and I really wouldn't ever do it now. Part of it is because I used to be with guys that didn't treat me too well, but the bigger part is definitely me. I get counseling, I got sober, I'm a lot more mature and grounded... I could never do something so selfish now when before I used to do it and justified it in my own head. So it is possible he's telling the truth when he says he wouldn't do it anymore and he just wants to settle. However, I'm a woman and did it more for emotional reasons where I think guys do it more for the physical aspect of it, which is a difference to think about.