| | Issues sleeping with partner - any advice?
I have an issue that is driving me mad - let me explain my problem in full. A year ago I started dating a girl and things have been great. We would spend 2 or 3 nights a week in the same bed. I never slept very well during those nights, falling asleep late / waking early, but because it was only 2 or 3 nights per week, I didnt mind.
6 months ago we moved in together. Ever since she moved in, I have had real issues sleeping every night. I get to sleep fine, but I wake every morning really early (4AM), very tense and dont feel like I slept. I find it hard to get back to sleep, my legs are very fidgety and my mind is racing.
I have tried countless things; herbal sleeping tablets, a sleeping routine, sleeping tracks & music etc, and nothing has worked. Many people have told me it is all about sleep hygine and a routine, but I think it is something deeper / a medical issue.
My girlfriend has told me that I used to occasionally masturbate in my sleep or try to touch her. I was 100% unaware of this, and I would wake up like I had just been solidly asleep. Apparently I do not do it anymore.
But whenever I wake up during the night, whether it be 2AM, 4AM, 5AM, I have an erection, my legs and body are tense, and I can't get back to sleep. Even if I relax or get up and have a 10 minute walk, this does not seem to help.
I am losing my hair, getting very bad skin and feeling terrible all day because of my lack of sleep. Can anybody suggest a possible reason(s) for my issue? The issue goes away on nights that my girlfriend isn't at home (ie visiting family), but she is a quiet, still sleeper, so why does it make a difference?
Thank you all in advance. James.