Hi,
ok, the main question:
Can an over-sensitive person have a working relationship?
For those who also want to read some story:
So some of you might already know me and the relationship i had. For those who don't, i've had an internet relationship where both of us are gamers. She had been diagnosed with aspergers (a year ago), some of people on this forum suspected that i have it myself too.
So it is now 3 weeks passed as she broke up with me after finding out (well, i told her) that i was talking about our relationship issues with other people (i've been discussing issues on these forums).
The reason i discussed issues was to understand what is normal, what is wrong, to get advice on how to improve, how to solve issue.
Sometimes i wanted to get support when i thought i was the right one. I must admit (now. Because back then i didn't notice it) in such cases i would describe situation in a form that would make me look better than her, but some people on these forums didn't get blinded so i was getting negative, towards me, replies
And that helped understand many things.
So, while this was a secret, i thought our relationship was getting better and better because of people who helped me here.
What does this have to do with over-sensitiveness? Well, it is now clear that i have been reacting too emotionally to A LOT of words and actions done. I don't know what comes first, but along with over-sensitivity, there is also self-centered personality.
Whenever something happened, i thought it's about me, that maybe i'm not worth, not good enough, or i did something wrong.
What did this cause? Well i would start over analysing what happened in the past, remember words said, emote-icons posted (i am sensitive to these. If person posts such icon i will take it as he is feeling THAT way. So positive emote-icons make me happy, and negative either sad or stressed).
I always thought she was honest person, but once i get triggered, i start analysing situation and this led to doubting her. After few of her reactions of "you don't trust me?!", i acknowledged that i had trust issues, so every time i was getting the vibes which make me doubt her, i would just tell myself that i have a problem with trust and i should believe her.
So, most issues we had, was because i was triggered by some word, i would then become moody if this issue couldn't be solved right away. And i'm feeling cranky until the issue gets solved. So i come to these forums to discharge myself and get solutions/advices.
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At this point, she seems to already have fell out of love and is super happy. I, on the other hand, am feeling depressed every day.
I am currently working (trying to) on a final project for the university and hoping to start working on my over-sensitiveness by appointing for a psychologist. But uni will be done in about 2 months, so i won't be able to see psychologist by then. So 2 months of pain in my heart awaits me x_x.
Do you think i will be able to fix myself with help of psychologist, or am i doomed to never have a working relationships?
