Re: Which professional to see
Communication is not one way. It takes two! I doubt that the whole problem is you alone.. usually when there is a communication breakdown both people involved are equally "at fault".
Couples couseling id my suggestion. When you go, the couselor will talk to you both together and then seperatly. Theyare very good at getting to the root of things, and will recommend or suggest individual sessions to one or both of you, after seeing you both and getting a feel for how you both are.
Will you wife go along?