Re: new to this
I know that true bi-polar is a very serious illness. However, I do not believe that this is why people cheat and lie. This goes to a matter of character, not moodswinds. Bi-polar......from my experience with it and I have had LOTS of experience with it, is more a matter of extreme mood swings. Here is an example of TRUE Bi-polar. One minute your so happy you want to buy a house even though you dont have a job and owe money to everybody. But you are so darn happy that you can do the impossible! You are buying a house today and that's all there is to it! Then your family says you cant, there is no possible way. You ignore them but continue with your plans. So you go to the bank and apply for the loan. They dont even process it. The second they realize there is no income, no savings, no credit....etc......they tell you this is impossible and not going to happen. Now your so down and so angry. You feel like nobody cares, or understands, and everybody is against you. Which spirals into all the things wrong that have ever happened to you in life and you withdraw into anger and depression, until along comes somebody to give you a pep talk, and they say everything you want to hear, that you are loved, special, amazing.....and all of a sudden, your happy again. In fact, your so happy, your going to go back to college. But not just for a year, your going to be a doctor! This is bipolar. but cheating and lying, that's something else. That is a lack of character. Even on meds, you cant change that. And you cant reason with somebody who is otherwise ill. Something tells me this goes beyond bi-polar with him and he uses bi-polar as an excuse to get away with whatever else it is that he is doing wrong. I just have a feeling that he is a very ill man. YOU CANNOT FIX THAT! Nor are you at all responsible for him. I think you really need to think about what you want. If it were me, I would look at the past 4 years pattern. He isn't likely to change any time soon, and he's abusing you along the way. I say get out, and find a way to go on with your life with somebody healthy. Just be more careful next time in your choice. Good luck to you!