Friend Pushing For More
About a year and a half ago, I became friends with this man who I see frequently at a bar I go to. I enjoy talking to him whenever I see him there, and we have even exchanged e-mail addresses. But he is about 25 years older than me and I am not at all attracted to him. Even though he has made it clear in the past that he finds me attractive, I've also made it clear that I don't see us as being any more than friends.
We've had a perfectly nice friendship up until very recently - he has begun suggesting that we hang out together outside of the bar. I hope I don't sound cruel, but I just have no desire to do anything with him outside of the bar. I tried to explain that the bar is the only place I go when I feel like socializing, which is true. Most of the friends that I have, I do only see at this particular bar. But even though I have expressed hesitation, he still keeps pressing, insisting that he wants to see me somewhere that is not as loud or crowded. I don't want to be mean and come out and say "Look, I just don't want to hang out with you alone somewhere" but I don't know what else to do. Even though I keep trying to put him off, he's been pressing me for about two weeks now. How do I handle this without ruining our friendship?
The grass is always greener on the other side...until you get closer and see that it's astroturf~