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Old 06-05-2010, 06:37 PM   #1
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Angry Being Used

Hey all! I want to know if i am just being used! Uses me for sex(which i dont receive any in return). Also, I think is waiting for my disability hearing to see if & how much money i will receive if I win the case. so she can get some of it. My ex girlfriend pays all my bills! And i get food stamps for food. I also do all the house work, cleaning, and cooking. She doesnt work either cuz she is retired but doesnt have any retirement $ coming in; draws her husbands ssi. The only reason why i say this is because her mother was mad at her and told her "the only reason why she loved her ex husband was because of his money." He is dead and didnt leave her any $. when i asked for money she gets mad(which is seldom) and says this is part of the rent money,you just understand. told her today i hate to ask for money cuz she gets mad about it. She got mad & told me to go home. the reason why i asked for $ was to go to garage sales because we have a booth at an antique store and that is what the money was for not for me. I almost had someone to come get me as i used to live 3 1/2hours away, am so tired of the up and down moods. wonder if she is bipolar. SHe has been asleep since we got home yesterday, told me she needed to process getting a knee replacement.
I have fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, arthritis, and a couple of doctors think i have MS, but i get up everyday and do what i need to do. I dont complain. my motto is "i have the disease but the disease doesnt have me"

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Old 06-05-2010, 08:15 PM   #2
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Re: Being Used

First, your post was a little vague. Why are you asking her for money? Does she ask you for money? Are you living together? How long ago was her knee replacement? Are you looking to get on disability or something?

From what is written, I didn't see anything that stood out terribly. If she just had a knee replacement, I'm sure she IS tired, and in pain. I completely understand sleeping and taking it easy. As far as the money issue, you didn't give enough information to give a good judgement there. But if she is the one paying the rent and bills, I dont see anything wrong with her not giving it up. Also, maybe she didn't love her exhusband, then again, maybe she did. But that was before you and to me, that's not something anybody can accurately judge. There must be children in the picture or she wouldn't be getting any ssi. At least, that's how it works in the state of Michigan. You have to have dependants, or be retirement age to claim a dead spouses social security. If it were found that she were giving it to you, or "playing" with it at all....she risks losing it, and getting in a lot of trouble. That money is intended for HER and HER DEPENDANTS.......nobody else. So I can understand her not wanting to give it away. Why is it that you cant work? I probably just need more information to judge the situation a little better. Good luck

 
Old 06-06-2010, 10:53 AM   #3
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[QUOTE=flamingo;4260072]Hey all! I want to know if i am just being used! Uses me for sex(which i dont receive any in return). Also, I think is waiting for my disability hearing to see if & how much money i will receive if I win the case. so she can get some of it. My ex girlfriend pays all my bills! And i get food stamps for food. I also do all the house work, cleaning, and cooking. She doesnt work either cuz she is retired but doesnt have any retirement $ coming in; draws her husbands ssi. The only reason why i say this is because her mother was mad at her and told her "the only reason why she loved her ex husband was because of his money." He is dead and didnt leave her any $. when i asked for money she gets mad(which is seldom) and says this is part of the rent money,you just understand. told her today i hate to ask for money cuz she gets mad about it. She got mad & told me to go home. the reason why i asked for $ was to go to garage sales because we have a booth at an antique store and that is what the money was for not for me. I almost had someone to come get me as i used to live 3 1/2hours away, am so tired of the up and down moods. wonder if she is bipolar. SHe has been asleep since we got home yesterday, told me she needed to process getting a knee replacement.
I have fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, arthritis, and a couple of doctors think i have MS, but i get up everyday and do what i need to do. I dont complain. my motto is "i have the disease but the disease doesnt have me" BTW yes she has a 21 yr old daughter that causes her grive all the time

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Old 06-06-2010, 01:35 PM   #4
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Re: Being Used

Ok, I still dont really see where she is "using" you. If she is retired, and drawing her exhusbands ssi, she is on a very fixed income. If you need money, no matter what the reason, you really need to look into making your own. Second, if she has been asleep for a couple of days after a knee replacement, I still dont see any problem with that. That is major surgery! If you can get up every day, ready and willing with your problems, that's fine. But you didn't just have surgery. I'm guessing she is even on pain medications. Yeah......she's going to sleep for a while, and be a little slow to get started. To be perfectly frank with you.....I wonder if it's you that's using her. I dont see any problem with what she is doing, but I think it's wrong that you feel she never loved her husband, and that your asking her for her ssi money. My guess is your living with her? You didn't provide a whole lot of information about that part of it. It sounds like things are a little tight right now, your waiting for a lawsuite to come in, and trying to get her to give you money to tide you over while you wait and she's telling you no. I dont see anything wrong with that. Sorry.

 
Old 06-06-2010, 01:56 PM   #5
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Re: Being Used

I don't understand this post at all. I'm not sure there's even a problem? What's going on here exactly because nothing that has been posted so far about the situation makes any kind of sense?

 
Old 06-06-2010, 04:13 PM   #6
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Re: Being Used

It could be argued that you are using her for a place to live and food until your disability comes through.

Sounds to me like you are kind of like a housewife who does the housework and she provides the money. I don't see "using" here. If you want sex, ask for it!
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