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Old 06-14-2010, 03:41 PM   #1
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Did i make the right choice?

Last night I broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months. For the past 2 months our relationship had been rocky, our conversations lacking anything meaningful. Recently I traveled for 9 days and when I came back, I didn't get one " I missed you." I felt, and still feel so much for this guy. But he never showed me any intimate signals. I felt that we weren't progressing emotionally, not developing, nor holding onto strong feelings. I knew last night that I made the right decision, but i feel guilty now. Please give some feedback. Thank you.

 
Old 06-14-2010, 03:44 PM   #2
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Re: Did i make the right choice?

Guilt has no place here. If you are happier having broken up with your boyfriend, that's what matters. You weren't married with children, you know? Enjoy your freedom.

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Re: Did i make the right choice?

You made the right choice. Basically you've said here that nearly 1/4 of your total relationship (2 months of 9) has been stale - you leave and he doesn't even miss you. It sounds like you need a guy with more emotion. You made a good choice.

 
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Re: Did i make the right choice?

If you broke up with him as a result of a rash, impetuous decision rather than something that's been going on in your gut for a while and regret it because you are remembering how wonderful he is and thinking the break up really was over something silly and petty, that would be one thing, but that doesn't seem to be the case here. IF the only reason you're second guessing yourself is guilt, then you made the right decision. No one wants to break another person's heart, and there are ways to break up that are better than others, but if you just weren't feeling it, then you weren't.

 
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Re: Did i make the right choice?

sounds like you made the right decision......how did he take it?

 
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