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Old 08-17-2002, 06:24 PM   #1
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hi how r u? I'd really appreciate an opinion. thanks in advance 4 listening. A male perspective would be nice too.
Dec 00 I'm dating a guy. (we're both 25, started as friends). Bc I show affection, I would buy him stuff to say, i luv u. This bothered him, we had 'issues' about it Jan 01. In March, we go 2 a bookstore, he sees a book he wants, I offer 2 buy it, he freaked out. A week later I send the book in the mail. I talk to him on Mon (the night b4 the book arrives), he says, 'we have an issue 2 discuss.' (I didn't tell him about it so it can be a surprise, but I say, u know I would never do anything 2 get u mad on purpose.) he responds, ya but u wouldn't avoid it. Next day, he gets the book; I call him all week, no response. I get $50 in the mail 4 the book; send it back w/ a note: I can't accept this in the spirit it was sent (he was obviously very mad). I leave a message on his machine 3 weeks later for 'closure'. No response. I know he hates me bc he didn't even call on my b-day.
So, is this break-up my fault? I'd like a perspective. Had I not sent the book would things be different? And, is this how most guys break-up w/ someone? Also, why do u think he didn't call me 2 say how mad he was? Oh &, we 'had' similar friends at work but I haven't returned. Is it appropriate 2 visit our workplace where he might see me and tell me off? (or ignore me)
thank u, thank u, keep smiling
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Old 08-17-2002, 07:02 PM   #2
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If he 'freaked' in the bookstore about you buying him the book why did you go ahead and do it afterwards? Obviously he had a problem with it. Just wondering.

 
Old 08-17-2002, 07:38 PM   #3
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hi there, thanks. your point is well taken. My intention was to give him a book by his fav. author. He was well aware that I don't 'wait' for occasions to do something, ie. X-mas. Granted, I made a choice and it cost me, large. take care

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Old 08-17-2002, 07:43 PM   #4
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The reason why you went ahead and bought the book is b/c you love him. I think he over-reacted. I guess it offended his macho-male ego crap! I'm assuming he plays the alpha-male role huh? That he has to pay for everything right? Neaaah, foooey! I don't believe in that. If I find that you want something, then I'll try my best to get it for you. Vice versa! Two way street, right?

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He doesn't feel the same way as you do and thinks you're moving too fast! Doesn't want a commitment or want to say the 'L' word. Either way, I'm sorry it ended that way. Not all men act that way. Alot of men are straight up about it.
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Old 08-17-2002, 07:49 PM   #5
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GWLE, thank u. your conviction on equity in a rel~ is a class act, I know you'll find someone who appreciates your generosity! all the best.

 
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