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Old 08-17-2002, 07:40 PM   #1
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hi how r u? I'd really appreciate an opinion. thanks in advance 4 listening.
Dec 00 I'm dating a guy. (we're both 25, started as friends). Bc I show affection, I would buy him stuff to say, i luv u. This bothered him, we had 'issues' about it Jan 01. In March, we go 2 a bookstore, he sees a book he wants, I offer 2 buy it, he freaked out. A week later I send the book in the mail. I talk to him on Mon (the night b4 the book arrives), he says, 'we have an issue 2 discuss.' (I didn't tell him about it so it can be a surprise, but I say, u know I would never do anything 2 get u mad on purpose.) he responds, ya but u wouldn't avoid it. Next day, he gets the book; I call him all week, no response. I get $50 in the mail 4 the book; send it back w/ a note: I can't accept this in the spirit it was sent (he was obviously very mad). I leave a message on his machine 3 weeks later for 'closure'. No response. I know he hates me bc he didn't even call on my b-day.
So, is this break-up my fault? I'd like a perspective. Had I not sent the book would things be different? And, is this how most guys break-up w/ someone? Also, why do u think he didn't call me 2 say how mad he was? Oh &, we 'had' similar friends at work but I haven't returned. Is it appropriate 2 visit our workplace where he might see me and tell me off? (or ignore me)
thank u, thank u, keep smiling
Dee


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Old 08-18-2002, 09:58 AM   #2
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No, the breakup wasn't your fault.Some guys can handle a woman buying things for them or supporting them and other guys don't like it as they want to be the "supporters".

 
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