Sick of hearing about happy couples - Relationship Health Message Board

Forrester · 08-15-2002, 07:16 PM

I can't help it. I'm trying to be supportive and happy for people, but I'm so sick of hearing it. My own love life is on hold, and I don't want to meet others' new loves. I meet them all the time over the years while I remain with no one. I just get sick of it. can anyone else relate? I wonder if people realize that they are sort of bragging and rubbing it in other peoples' faces when they talk about how sickly sweet they are in love, they can't wait for them to meet me, etc. I just don't think I can put another fake smile on and pretend I am happy for these people. Of course I am happy for them on some level, but I want what they have and it frustrates me that they can have it now and I cant. It isn't fair. Thanks for listening. I'm about to pop from the unfairness of it all.

stolie · 08-15-2002, 07:20 PM

I know how you feel Forrester. Many of my closest friends are married now, most of the rest have girlfriends, and I haven't dated anyone in four years. In fact, I've only had one serious relationship ever, and I'm 29! Other than that, I've been on a total of five dates in my whole life.
So, yes, I have some bitterness on this issue too.

catgirl · 08-15-2002, 08:11 PM

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Forrester & Stolie

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I hear the pain and I understand it.

For many years I was alone too. All I would meet is deadbeats. I finally got to a point where I said "obviously, it's not meant for me to meet someone", and I made and resolved myself to be alone the rest of my life. But not with bitterness, cause I was going to make the most of my life, if not with someone else, then with me. I don't have to be with someone to be happy. Guess, what happened. I met my husband, just out of the blue, right after I decided that there was no one for me. It can happen for the both of you too!

On another note, Forrester, when others want to introduce you to their significant other they are only wanting to share their joy with you cause you mean something special to them. They are not doing it to brag or rub it in your face. But I do understand how you feel. It just sinks your heart just a notch lower.

But please don't think bad of them. They are thinking highly of you to include you in their relationship. I have seen and lost so many friends because they meet their love and all of a sudden didn't have time for me. So the fact that they want to include you, means that they value your friendship highly. Value that. That is truly special and does not come around very often.

Hugs to you both. You will meet the person of your dreams when the time is right. Cat

Forrester · 08-15-2002, 08:14 PM

Maybe we should date each other.

Yes, bitter is a good word for it. I have to bite my tongue so much sometimes. I just erased all the bitter-sounding replies to another friend in love/about to be married. I know I am ready for it and would like it too. I want it. I'm not obsessive or anything, just someone who's ready and serious and intense but who stays in too much and so it's hard.

It means so much to me to know you are going through something similar. I feel very much alone. Thank you for replying to me. I am sorry to see that you are going through this too.

stolie · 08-15-2002, 09:50 PM

Forrester,

All right, you're on. I'll pick you up at 8.

Seriously, this is a big issue for me too and has been for a long time. You definitely have my heartfelt empathy. You seem like such an intelligent, caring, sensitive person from your posts, so I have no doubts you will find someone, if not tomorrow, then in the not-too-distant future.

Cat, thanks so much for your inspiring words of encouragement. You're right, bitterness is not exactly a recipe for a happy life and good things often happen when you're least expecting/aiming for them. Sometimes I have to watch myself though, or the bitterness creeps through!

((((((Forrester and Cat))))))