am i wrong? - Relationship Health Message Board

justaguydi · 10-06-2002, 11:40 PM

I am totally happily married. My wife is a dream come true, We are totally in sync. We are on the same wavelength about everything, not just sexual. We have sex at least once a day. She happily goes along with all my fantasy ideas. She also has her own ideas. We are completeley, truly in love. We make porno movies together, it's such a blast. She satisfies me totally, and I never want to be with anyone else.
I do, however, like to download porn. And take voyueristic pics of women. This upsets her; she says it makes her feel insecure..... Am i wrong?

star508 · 10-07-2002, 06:42 AM

When you say you like taking voyeristic pics of women...what do you mean?

Greenberry · 10-07-2002, 06:53 AM

Seeking a sexual outlet outside of your marriage is always WRONG. I don't mean an occasional "fantasy" (i.e., in your mind) about someone else, I mean downloading dirty pictures and even worse, spying on other women and taking pictures of them (which is a CRIME). And if your wife doesn't like it, it is double wrong, because it hurts her personally in addition to violating your marriage vows. Of course your wife is hurt by it. Your activities make her feel as though she is not enough for you. You are always looking for more, despite everything she does to try to please you. You should consider her feelings and make her feel as though she is the only woman in the world for you, and one way to do that is by staying away from porn and not taking pictures of other women.

nicola76 · 10-07-2002, 08:00 AM

Greenberry is right on. Continuing to do things that you know upset and hurt your spouse is always wrong. You need to show some consideration for her feelings.

By the way, when you say you take "voyeuristic pictures" of women, do you mean that you're spying on them and photographing them? If so, then that's a crime like Greenberry has said.

*hannahstruecolors* · 10-07-2002, 09:27 AM

Well... on my opinion and i dont know what he means by the whole taking pictures and he didnt really modify that, but i dont think that downloading porn is wrong. everyone has something different that stimulates their sexual self and if yours happens to be porn sometimes then i dont really see whats wrong with that. Your sex life may be great and really that is fantastic but do either of you still masturbate after or before the daily intercourse session? If she did would you be upset about that?