| | Can this marriage be saved ?
This is my second marriage, and my husbands. Both our spouse's died from cancer.We've been married 10 years.
I had known my husband since grade school, or thought I knew him. We dated for over a year, and I talked to him about how important it was for me to spend time with my grandchildren, and he agreed, and said he love kids. After we were married for a year, he started complaining about the children . I was only seeing them about twice a month. He said they should be taught manners, and the whole nine yards. He thinks a child should act like an adult. I have always had a small dog, until mine died a few months before we were married. I have asked him several times in the past, if I could get another dog, and he tells me I'm being selfish, that he doesn't want a dog in the house. For heath reasons, I'm not able to have an outside dog. I just need some compainship from a little dog. He doesn't like animals, or children, even though he has 2 grown children. They have told me how hard it was when they were growing up, dealing with his quirks.
We don't have anything in common anymore. He just went along with things I wanted to do until we got married, and then he started telling me we couldn't afford to take a vacation, or anything I wanted to do. Truth is, he likes car races, and hanging out at the race shop. I use to go with him to the races, but I'm not able to drive that far anymore.Recently, I have becomed disabled to work, so I don't feel like I have the right to buy a dog with his money. I was the main bread winner until I got sick, and I never complained about how much he spent.
He likes to drink by himself after I go to bed. I told him I couldn't stand to see him getting drunk every night, so that's why he waits until I'm sleeping.
We are both in our mid 50's. I don't feel like there's much love left. I just don't have any fight left in me. I want to be happy, but I don't know how I can be, living with him. I think he knows I'm between a rock and a hard place, since I have to depend on him to support me.
I would apprecciate any help I can get. We have been to counseling, but he decided it was my problem, and stopped going.
Does a woman have the right to spend money without her husband's permission?