oh wow, I am in the EXACT same situation as you are now ^_^. My bf doesn't know if we are still "together" or not, in fact i don't really know what he wants at all. He also says he still loves me and that he will "always love" me. That sounds nice and all, but in the end, it doesn't do anything for "our" relationship.
It's difficult because we are in a long distance relationship. We were living together for a while, but my bf went away for the summer on a school trip, and when he came back, he said that he needed me to go back home (another country). I suppose i understand somewhat his reasons for doing so (would be too long to get in to here x_x), but still, the way he acts now is very frustrating..
Like you, i've basically stopped asking what he does and have tried to convince myself that I don't care.. I guess it's one way of making it not hurt as much..
Every night i go to bed frustrated and with anxiety; he says that i shouldn't break up with him (in my mind we're pretty much broken up anyways??!?!?? so confusing), but everything i feel says that i should, just out of frustration.
It's true.. you shouldn't stay with someone if they are making you miserable.. but it's sooo difficult when it's you ;P I'd say you were a stronger person than me for doing that..
It's a lot easier when you stop having contact with the other person too.. at least that's been my experience
Anyways good luck to you, and let us know