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Old 11-11-2002, 09:54 PM   #1
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I have only been with one man in my entire life that I was actually sexually attracted to.Now that he has lost interest in me I feel like I will never have a sex life again.I am not attracted to any other man in the whole world, only him.So what do you ? I feel like I am living for nothing now, like I might as well be dead since there is nobody in the world that could replace him.

 
Old 11-12-2002, 06:32 AM   #2
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oh I know exactly how you feel believe me.. my problem is I have no interest in sex at all I had a full hysterectomy but I know what you mean I have an ex boyfriend that I was very sexually attracted tooo and I can't meet anyone that I just have that chemistry with I know there has to be someone one day I will meet that has the same thing.. I never liked sex I will tell you if you want me tooo.. it all started with being raped and its never been good for me so I hope you do find someone that you feel that way for again and he does for you..
good luck sweetie,Renee'

 
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Old 11-12-2002, 04:13 PM   #3
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Been there. I also felt (after I lost a love) that i would never find anyone else that could fill his shoes. But I was wrong. It took a few years (hopefully it won't for you) but I did find someone and we're married. Btw, he's more intelligent, more handsome, better sense of humor, etc. Everything I've always wanted in a man but never thought I would get. Hang in there. You'll get over him and probably find someone much better.

 
Old 11-12-2002, 08:02 PM   #4
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Why do you think you have lost him?? Have you given up on him or did he leave you?? If he left you, is there a way you think you can get him back? Its worth a try

 
Old 11-12-2002, 08:24 PM   #5
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I know how you feel. I have only ever been with 2 guys physically in my entire life, and only ever done anything sexual with them 2. The first guy and I broke up and It took me 4 years to find the second guy(all my friends don't believe me when I say I went 4 years without anything sexual) and it was a great relationship, but we just broke up less than a week ago after 2 1/2 years. I think it took me so long to find another guy and trust him because I was scared and still had feelings for the 1st guy, even though I really didn't love him, but I shared something special with him. I was crying to my friend and telling him I don't ever want to have another boyfriend b/c I hate starting over and doing everything all over again. I think to my self all the time,"I will never have sex again", because it doesn't appeal to me with someone else. But I do think after time, for me 4 years, things change. I know exactly how you feel and I'm sorry because I fell like that right now. I don't even want to date anyone, b/c I am still attached to my ex.

 
Old 11-12-2002, 11:00 PM   #6
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Well, he came over tonight to see me.Finally.THANK GOD !I was really afraid I freaked him out and he lost interest in me but he cared enough to come over and make love to me tonight.It was all I could do to keep my head together while he was here.Trying to keep my cool about everything is so hard.I like gotta ask about every move I make.I always feel like I'm sticking my foot in my mouth.He makes me so hot and I don't ever want to lose him.

 
Old 11-12-2002, 11:43 PM   #7
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Is having a really great sexual connection with a man all that a women needs??? I mean can she live off of just that? And why are some men, particularly the ones we have the great sexual connection with, so afraid to get emotionally involved with a girl?

 
Old 11-13-2002, 12:03 AM   #8
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Well for me, right now in my life, I could not live without sex . I would die without it.I also cannot live without friendship,love, compassion and companionship.

 
Old 11-13-2002, 08:44 AM   #9
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Hey dsheldon,

Please forgive me for saying this but I have been reading your posts for a very long time and I am very concerned that you are selling yourself short with the men in your life.

You seem like such a caring and intelligent woman but it seems you do not get any respect in return for what you are giving. I wonder if maybe past relationships have made you cold and it seems you do not think your worthy of a complete fulfilling relationship and that all men are the same.

I think you can do much better than just getting a roll in the hay when ever this guy chooses to come over. I think you have a lot more to offer and deserve so much more as well.

I do understand how you feel though...sometimes I read your 1 liners you post on here and I can't help but chuckle...maybe I am seeing a lot more of me in your thoughts than I care to admit!!

We need to take a stand for ourselves girl!!

Best wishes to you!

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Old 11-13-2002, 11:36 PM   #10
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In defense of Dsheldon, I think she is living her life as it suits her and what she finds comforting and can give her a sense of peace and stability. Anyway, whose to say what is and what isn't normal? I think everyone is just trying to make it thru this life with their sanity in tact at the end, how everyone goes about it will differ from person to person.

 
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