Thanks for the advice, everyone who replied. I do think I romanticize the past, thinking only of the good times, when the reality was, he was kind of crappy to me, stringing me along, and not being truthful with me. I just have a hard time meeting people to date, and when I met him, I was so happy because he presented himself to me to be a person who wanted a serious relationship, then waffled later. And Newdawn, I know where you are coming from, I totally obsess about him, mostly in my thoughts though. I've tried to avoid having any contact with him, which is hard because I see him every day. It's probably best that we accept that they aren't coming back and not have anything to do with them. It's just so hard.